In the masochist's world, clients have a need to be punished, and pay a dominatrix to cater to their whims. It's a win-win situation in which both parties are satisfied. In the sadist's world, pain is inflicted on those who seek to avoid being hurt. The sadist selects victims according to their vulnerability, unlike the dominatrix, whose paying customers are usually socially prominent and/or occupationally powerful men.
Thus, I believe the relationship between dominatrix and client should be termed D&M (for domination and masochism) instead of S&M.
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