By Jared Chausow
By Katie Toth
By Elizabeth Flock
By Albert Samaha
By Anna Merlan
By Jon Campbell
By Jon Campbell
By Albert Samaha
We just have to kick our own femmy butts whenever complacency threatens to make our house unlivable. Well, let the self-flagellation begin, because lately we all seem to be over the rainbowand in fact over everything. Just because we want it to be history, AIDS has long become a back-burner issue, as disinterest, denial, and a misguided feeling that it's now easily treatable have prompted a much publicized new wave of sexual apathy. Seemingly contradictory messages about sex are helping fuel confused behavior. (One bar rag recently ran a cover story about AIDS vaccine trials and used as a cover image a writhing, half-naked go-go boy.) The handful of remaining sex clubs play host to hormonal hunks who want to act out, but aren't exactly sure how. At the West Side Clubwhich the city is, naturally, investigatingtoweled tyros try to re-create the old bathhouse abandon they've heard about, but in their own self-conscious, millennial way. In the hallway, a wannabe nympho halfheartedly touches a passerby's rippling chest. The object of his affection freezes, trying to instantly decide if the guy's hot enough to deserve a reciprocal grope. There's a tense moment as they distractedly gaze at each other's shoulder blades, then separate because a panting audience has developed. But they'll undoubtedly connect later in a private room, accessorized with the single condom you get on entering the club.
It's all part of the gay learning processexcept that what some have learned is they don't even want that one condom. "Bareback bottom" has become a badge of reckless pride, a loony label that says sex is more important than anything else on earth. Indifference has attained a certain cachet, and for an implacable few, courting death has practically become an aphrodisiac. Correspondingly, AIDS activism has also been visited by ennui, losing the urgency that used to make it electric. In the '80s, the plague seemed unfathomable, the throngs bolted up in response, and it was easy to agree on one do-nothing enemy: "the government." Since we were all enraged at that one target, we found strength in the directed furor. But now we're mad at everyone and no one. Numbed by years of horror, thrown off by subtly changing demographics, and appeased by crumbs of progress, we'd rather pretend that our crises have been resolved than face the mountain of alarming truths.
Occasionally remembering to be agitated, we snarl back at Giuliani, whose desexualized vision of the city threatens to fringe us into one big obsolescence-ready mom-and-pop storebut since he's got a bug up his ass about all fun, not just gay fun, he's not as inspiring an opponent to mobilize against as more specific monsters would be. And the rage is further dissipated by the fact that our own leaders and organizations have to be constantly scrutinizedlike GMHC was for its controversial Morning Party (which it has canceled), partner reportability (which its new executive director supported, then dropped), and employee unrest (which it faced when the same head honcho started thinking pink slips).
But I know some stuff that can get us riled up again. For all of our advances, the très gay America we're living in is one where a talk show host can be massively penalized for showcasing the supposed horror of a man confessing his love to another (you know, the old homosexual panic scenarioand GLAAD pretty much backed up the court decision!). It's a place where lawyers can argue that someone viciously sodomized with a plunger had been engaging in a consensual sex act. (Oh, yeah, we do that all the timefeels great, except for the splinters.) After every step forward, you're reminded of the residual idiocy that holds everything back, as "gay" remains a stinging insult wielded by the holier-than-thou Columbine students of the world. I've gotten called "faggot" more times in the last year than in all the time before that, and though I always want to answer, "Yeah, you should come out of the closet too," I'm always too stunned to think of it.