Cultural critics say that bears have created just another "clone" look for gay men, and the community has been commodified into T-shirts, bumper stickers ("Honk if you give bear hugs!"), and the brown-striped, paw-print bear pride flag. That's true, too, but some bears say it's not about the way you look or belonging to the right club. Bearness is a mind-set, not just a style, and, as bear writer Chris Wittke says, "I've always thought that bearness was in the eye of the beholder." Well, in that case, I'm off to find three bears for a little naughty Goldilocks scene . . .