What a lot of people don't realize is that it's not about the humiliation per se. It's not about the tomatoes. I think people get caught up in what's happening on the surface and can't see past it to really listen to what Femcar and Phantom have to say, and to see how it can apply to so many things. It's ironic, but also twistedly fitting, that people get stuck on he-did-what-to-her? and miss the deeper implications of their unique kind of play. "This whole journey is about accepting things that are very difficult to accept," she says. "I want to get to a place of authenticity where I can be as fully me as I possibly can in every moment. I don't want to pretend. I want to be true without the illusions, the niceties, all the things we put around us to hide who we really are."
Femcar wallows in the mud
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by Dan Savage