The Unexpected Orgy

Spending Shabbat with six half-naked new friends—in one bed

I'd been hesitant to join in because I'm out of practice, and didn't want to look stupid in front of people I don't know. I also doubted my ability to say no; all too often, the people pleaser in me is inclined to say yes—to dates or come-ons—even if I'm not really interested. When it comes to sparing someone else's feelings versus heeding my own, I figure I'll get over it more easily than they will. But speaking up and realizing I can do so kindly made me feel like an adult, able to navigate the pleasures and responsibilities of sex. Even after attending countless sex parties, part of me had still believed that by entering into an erotic setting like an orgy, I was offering up my body for "anything goes."

That said, I'm more likely to seek out someone to make out with on my couch while watching a cheesy romantic comedy than a future orgy partner. I don't have to push myself to be some kind of sexual overachiever, as I've done in the past to fit in. I'm learning to be OK with watching from the sidelines and having the occasional night of debauchery—but only when I'm really in the mood.


Rachel hosts the In the Flesh Erotic Reading Series, with Lily Burana, Shari Goldhagen, Caridad Piñeiro, and others. Admission is free, and books, candy, and cupcakes will be given out. Wednesday at 8, Happy Ending Lounge, 302 Broome Street, inthefleshreadingseries.blogspot.com


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