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deebee 04/09/2012 4:31:00 PM
lol i love your term " melanin chasers", gonna remember that!
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deebee 04/09/2012 4:06:00 PM
i really dont understand why people are getting so angry over this narrow-minded article. in fact i took this article with a sense of light heartedness because some of the stuff was true and other things were exaggerated. i am a south african born chinese male and i'm gay. i have experienced some of the things mentioned in this article, like the rice queen yellow fever phenomenon where older creepy white guys cant stop leering at me. but you know what??? it doesnt bother me in the slightest.nothing that anybody could say or do could ever change the way i think about myself, i dont feel threatened by older men who do have an asian fetish. i am also not threatened by good looking white guys who think its "dating down" to date an asian guy. on the other hand i've had lots of white girls running after me too. i'm a typical skinny asian guy but i have an attractive face. when i was at university a white female colleague of mine, who was pretty told me how she wanted to have sex with an asian guy like me cause she didnt experience it before, and yet she is engaged to a white guy. does she have an asian fetish? i dont think so.... i was also a teaching assistant and the professor that i helped said to me oneday, " so did you notice how the girls stare at you when you walk into the classroom?" eventually a white girl from the class came up to me and admitted that she liked me, and then there was another white girl (who was a part time model who wanted to date me) and she was gorgeous!! black girls stare at me too in public places. on the other hand i've dated white guys too, some who had asian fetish and others who just thought i was a cool person to date, others who were very attractive and others less attractive. i've also dated darker skinned guys too. i think it is sad to see some asian women and gay asian men running after white guys, and vice versa because of a lack of self love. i remember walking through a mall and seeing a FOB chinese woman dating an older white guy who had just bought her lots of things at the mall. as i passed her by we looked at each other and she had an embarrassed look on her face because she thought i was judging her but i wasnt. people will do what they want to do but that doesnt mean that you have to let it affect you. i've read so much bickering on this thread from all types of people: asian women, asian men, white guys, and the list goes on. but at the end of the day, all that counts is what you think about yourself. all those asian men out there that get angry cause they think that white guys "steal" their women? well, then learn to have a little self confidence then most girls will end up liking you. if a gay asian male like myself can get white girls to like me then i'm pretty darn sure that you could do it too. all those white guys out there that are threatened and find the need to defend themselves on this thread? who cares? you are the only one who knows what you are really like on the inside whether, for you, its just a preference or a serious fetish,so why let people get to you? then i have also come across really arrogant asian females (specifically FOB chinese women) who wont give me the time of day because i'm not white, ( there arent alot of japanese, korean, or south east asian people here) but like i keep saying it doesnt bother me in the slightest because their arrogant attitude tells more about who they are than who i am. I am proud to be chinese and yet i also appreciate other people and cultures, my best friend is a dark-skinned girl from madagascar.
this may sound extremely lame and cliche...but how can you expect anyone else to like you if you DONT like YoURSELF? i learned long ago to stop caring about everybody elses opinions about me because its a waste of my time and energy. if you like me you like me, if you dont you dont, no skin off my back.......
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Bishplease1 12/12/2011 4:16:00 AM
What a strained bunch of bullshit.
Most of what's recounted here - particularly the 'rice queen' anecdote; hope you didn't strain your shoulder with that reach - is not objectionable to any sane person. It's a preference (if it's even that; this is a lot of specious reasoning, where it's not evident that some of the evil people objectifying Asians are actually doing so, are Asianphiles and only try to date Asians), and doesn't seem predicated on much beyond lust-in-the-club and attendant drunkenness.
I do like that you acknowledge that this is about the only form of objectification where the supposed object is treated with reverence (you've not noted the flip side, of imprisoning the person in a stereotype -- the girl getting dumped and dourly calling herself replaceable signifies less than nothing here). Hm. Must be awful.
Most of the young and youngish Asian women I know who bitch about this only date white men - would sooner die than date Asian men, Latinos and African-American men. It's a way to self-stroke the ego and say yes, we are the prettiest, the smartest, the best, but damn it all if all the creepsters don't like us best. It's obnoxious, braggart behavior, not a social problem.
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Anna Haden 10/26/2011 7:54:00 AM
I am glad you wrote this article. I agree- as an Asian American college student born and raised in California.
I find that the Asian fetish applies to lots of older men. It never seemed to exist until I set foot in the world outside my area, which is 70-80% Asian- Chinese and Indian. In high school, I found that white kids tended to either over obsess with Asian culture or try to avoid it completely.
When I leave my city though and travel to San Francisco or the immediate surrounding areas, it immediately has a different feeling. I have lots of guys, mostly 25+ try to pick me up. The thing is- they don't try it with white women. It's almost like they think it will be easier to pick up an Asian than a white girl. White men get this negative Yellow Fever stereotype generally because of the breed of men who try to pick up Asian girls. You definitely get a better vibe from an attractive guy your age who you are mutually attracted too than some old guy on the bus leering at you.
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Peter 07/27/2011 6:43:00 AM
Dummy’s Guide to Asian Girls with White Fever
The WHIGGIE (White Guy Groupie)
A brief profile of Asian girls afflicted with “White Fever”
ORIGINS: A subset of women of Asian ethnicity, usually found residing in major U.S. cities, although they have been known to appear overseas occasionally. Closely related to their cousins, Yellow Cabs (Japan), Gwei-Po’s (Hong Kong), Sarong Party girls (Singapore), Twinkies and Bananas.
NOT TO BE CONUSED WITH: Intelligent, emotionally-secure women who are free of identity problems, self-hate, racial prejudice and chips on their shoulders.
CHARACTER TRAITS
- Poorly developed self-identity. Pathetically insecure with themselves and their ethnicity.
- Resentment of father’s traditional, authoritarian upbringing (whether real or perceived).
- Brainwashed into believing that they, as AF’s, are more desirable than other women in exotic lotus blossom kinda way. Willingness to pander to western media sexual stereotypes of AF’s, which they perceive as marketing advantage.
- Thoroughly whitewashed. Desperate need to fit into “mainstream” (i.e. white) society and to distance themselves from their Asian heritage. Racial inferiority complex.
- Feigned air of superiority when dealing with members of own race and any other minority groups. In need of major attitude adjustments.
- Exaggerated, whiny, Encino-esque valley girl accent.
- Delusions of grandeur… “I want it all…and that begins with the right (i.e. white) guy…” Asian-American princess complex.
- Uncanny ability of determine one’s nationality, occupation, earning capacity and make of auto within three minutes of commencing a conversation.
- Exaggerated perception of white males’ value in increasing AF’s social status.
- Ignorant and narrow-minded, eager to adopt and perpetuate fallacious western media stereotypes of Asian men.
- A compulsion to trash Asians, particularly Asian men, in order to justify their autoracist tendencies, placate their guilt and bolster their self-esteem.
- Extremely shallow, self-centered, argumentative and boring.
- Disdains ethnic studies; regards it as a major threat to her carefully constructed, self-deceptive whiggie identity.
- Despises all Asian men, with the occasional exception of their brothers (after all, they share the same genes.
- Believes that racism does not exist because she, as an AF, has never experienced it first hand, or is too dense to realize it. Besides, those Asiaphiles are so nice to her (while plotting to get into her pants.
- Gets a warm fuzzy feeling when watching The Joy Luck Club, while snuggled up to her geeky Asiaphile boyfriend.
- Believes that the only reason an Asian person would disrespect her is because they are racist.
- Has lost count of how many WM’s she’s done this month.
- The wet-dream come true for socially-handicapped Caucasian nerds who are unable to attract Caucasian women.
- Threatened and insecure in the presence of any culturally-perceptive Asian person or any AM not fitting her stereotype of the quiet , marginalized, “model minority” geek.
- Fundamentally insecure, utterly confused, lacking in self respect.
- Many aging whiggies, after being used and abandoned by WM’s in favor of younger, more nubile whiggies and being rejected by AM’s who see through their transparency, develop a bitterness towards all men, period.
- Denial of all of the above.
FACIAL EXPRESSIONS: a) Look of contempt when eyes meet those of any non-white male, converting to beaming grin upon sighting of WM victim/target; b) terminal pout or c) bimboish expression that defies deep thought.
TYPICAL ATTIRE: Anything trendy, mainstream-looking and seductive (especially if it’s black and tight). Big hair (perhaps their most valuable asset) tossed with hand every 15 seconds. Wonderbra. Fanatical whiggies have been known to undergo certain procedures such as eyelid surgery, breast augmentation and vaginal tightening operations in order to increase their marketability to WM’s. Blue contact lenses and bleached blonde hair have even been sported on occasion. Note: Attire may vary depending on the specific type of WM being targeted.
I.Q: Too low to measure.
NATURAL HABITAT:
Personal ad columns (“exotic, slim, SAF seeks successful, generous SWM”), cheerleading squads, sorority houses (role: token “oriental sisters”), T.V. newsdesks, B-grade Kung-Fu flicks, trendy nightclubs (usually found necking with aging WM’s), Chinese restaurants (slumming with the WM and demonstrating that she’s “in touch with her heritage”), anywhere else frequented by White males.
TYPICAL WHIGGIE QUIPS:
Age 10: “Mom, why do we have to be (Chinese/Japanese/Korean)? Do you have to dress like that? And what’s with Dad and his accent?
Age 12: “Mom, I want an eyelid job for Christmas, okay?
Later on…
“I’ve always only dated white guys. I don’t know why, I just have.”
“Race doesn’t matter. I just happen to like white guys. It’s just a preference.”
“We are the world, we are the children…We…”
“I’ve gone out with all kinds of guys…Dutch, English, French, German, you name it. Even went out with a Jewish guy once! After all, love is color blind.”
“Eeeew, Jennifer, how could you go out with that (insert minority group here) guy!?” Totally gross!
“Oooh Roger, you’re like soooo strong and intelligent. Did you say you drive a beemer? Kewl! (giggle).”
“I want to learn English better…you maybe teach, handsome man? Are you U.S. citizen?” (Yes FOB’s can be whiggies too!)
“Like why would I want to go out with an Asian guy? They don’t own me or anything. Uhh, and besides they are all male chauvinist …and domineering too…yeah that’s it! Didn’t you see The Joy Luck Club?”
Like, I’m dating *out* of my race, so how can I be racists?!! Duh!!
CLOSELY RELATED TO: Racists, bigots, wannabes, ho’s, chameleons, white supremacists, a fish out of water.
MEDIA REPRESENTATION/ROLE MODELS: Connie Chung, Amy Tan, Lisa Ling, Margaret Cho, Sheryl Wu Dunn, any of The Joy Luck Club protagonists (except the one who married an Asian dude).
NATURAL COUNTERPARTS: Asiaphiles…who else?
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06/08/2011 2:46:00 AM
As a white man, I call bullcrap! So what if the country is large and has a huge population. Yes, there's going to be more people illiterate by person, but if you take an account of the majority divided by the illiterate you would see that percentage wise China has a higher literacy rate than Africa. For cruds sake dude, take in concideration of the statistics... Blacks literacy < Oriental literacy. Sorry, dude, but I think you lose.
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Vanstruck (thdrkside) 06/07/2011 9:06:00 PM
Yeah its a lot easier for you women.
I used to have asian fetish myself but it was cured thanks to a certain event. I am trying to get people to help me think of a cure here: http://www.newgrounds.com/bbs/topic/1252292
So if any guys with yellow fever want to help me out here...
Anyways, you women have nothing to worry about because there are hordes of men of whatever race looking for girls like you, its harder for men with yellow fever.
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Melanie Kim72 06/07/2011 7:01:00 PM
I am a white female that is very attracted to traditional aka FOB Korean and Chinese men. I am not attracted to white men at all. It's not just the looks that I like but the history, culture, family values etc... So I am not ashamed of having a so called 'Asian fetish'. One can not control to whom they are attracted to you know. So I give a shout out to all the fine looking Asian men, esp my handsome Chinese husband :-) !!
Melanie K
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Seppuku 05/15/2011 2:17:00 PM
@ Serena I take issue with your cack handed attempt at making a convoluted point. Why use all black people are illiterate? Now, I'm African, over educated ( all my mates too) and last time I checked, there are less than a billion people in Africa. Now, China has close to 1.4 billion, India 1.5 and add to that other Asian countries..my point is, a quick maths would probably show more illiteracy issues in Asia, thanks a bunch.
Back to Dan's epiphany, the few blokes that I know with Asian fetishes here in UK are straight out of this article! And the girls, a coterie of newbies are a disgrace!
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Guest101 12/29/2010 3:25:00 AM
I call bullshit on your post. Plenty of women stay in relationships where they are objectified. And it shouldn't be denied that white men can be aggressive towards Asian females & have certain stereotypes in mind.
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Serena 12/28/2010 11:29:00 AM
God, this is nonsense.
As an Asian woman, I find this article to be absolutely ridiculous. Its loaded with crap and bias and I can't believe that a fellow Asian woman wrote this.
This article's tone is almost saying "If you like an asian woman and you are NOT an asian man, there's something wrong with you." Hello? What happened to tolerance?
The whole fetish thing is so negative. It's basically saying that white women are the standard and anything below that, is dating downward. There's something wrong with you/ you have low self esteem/ you can't get white women if you're dating asian women. White men generalize asians to be submissive geishas with tight.. body parts.
Let me tell you something, it's highly unlikely for ANY woman to date a man who's objectifying her, so please do not degrade asian women as stupid enough to ever let that happen. I don't doubt that there are some weird asiaphiles out there but why do you group all asian/white relationships in that category? If we went by that logic, why don't we just say that all black people are illiterate? That all Jews are greedy? That all middle eastern ppl are angry people that like to blow shit up? If you agree with the aforementioned stereotypes, then let me tell you what disease you have: ignorance.
You are attracted to what you are attracted to. The heart wants what it wants. It's time for people to stop minding other people's business anyways. Why do you care if you see asian/white couplings often? Don't you see asian/asian , white/white , black/black couplings way more often anyways? But if you see an surge of interracial dating and there's an asian woman in it, god forbid, yellow fever! I have a high suspicion that most people's subconscious can be quite racist and they'll often make up excuses for shit but the fact of the matter is that they don't like anything out of the ordinary or they feel that the pairing just isn't right. He/She could do so much better. Why are they dating each other?
Well suck it up princess and move the fuck on. Unless that asian/white couple walking down the street is somehow personally affecting your life and making it hard for you to function on a daily basis, you should stick to your own issues. Let's start with that ignorance we talked about.
Sincerely,
The least submissive asian girl you'll ever meet who dates asian guys but advocates freedom to do whatever the fuck you want.
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tony 10/08/2010 10:32:00 PM
And do the Asian girls who like white guys look like this?
http://www.japansugoi.com/wordpress/japanese-bikini-gravure-idols/
Cuts both ways! It' simple, people want to be with attractive people, no matter what race.
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tony 10/08/2010 10:32:00 PM
And do the Asian girls who like white guys look like this?
http://www.japansugoi.com/wordpress/japanese-bikini-gravure-idols/
Cuts both ways! It' simple, people want to be with attractive people, no matter what race.
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Ian 09/17/2010 3:26:00 AM
While I know i have a marked preference for asian women, I find myself disagreeing with many of the personality traits associated with asiaphiles. I don't find myself specially attracted to beautiful, subservient women, no more so than i am attracted to beautiful, hot-tempered, independent women. I am attracted to women who are attracted to me. Yesterday i walked into a room with 10-some women, and the first one my eyes caught on was asian. There was 1 or 2 other attractive girls in the room whom i would have been more than pleased to be with, but the only girl who showed any outward interest in me was the asian girl i had first seen. In my mind, she was the most attractive woman in the room for that reason. I didn't have any housework that needed done, i didn't have an argument that i wanted to win against a subservient girl, and i prefer indian or mexican cuisine over asian. And yet i prefer asian women. walking into a room, they will be the first people my eye looks for. I have the "yellow fever". But i'm not red in the face about it.
I have a huge interest interest in Asian culture. I own dozens of books on Japanese prints. But i also own dozens of books about Monet, Dali, and Warhol. I watch anime movies by Isao Takahata and Hayao Miyazaki religiously. But i also love Seinfeld, 30 Rock, and I Love Lucy. I listen to Japanese and Korean pop, rock, and rap. But i also love Steely Dan, U2, and Aerosmith. I prefer attractive asian women. but the truth is that i also like all attractive women.
there are probably terrible, abusive asian girls out there. and there are certainly perverted, stereotyping asiaphiles waiting for them. But there are thousands of wonderful asian girls who are more than their ancestry and facial features. and there are thousands of asiaphiles who are more than their romantic preferences. That's just how it is.
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TheTruthTeller 09/08/2010 11:10:00 PM
Also: I want to qualify something here. I DO NOT believe that all Asian women are delusional, arrogant and that they all think non-Asian men have a fetish. I DO know that there are plenty who are cool people and just know how to discern between a weird guy and a balanced healthy guy — whether, white, Asian, or any other race. Weird imbalanced attitudes toward women are of course in no way isolated to the AF/WM pairing, and to imply such borders on creepy, bizarre forms of racism. I pointed out the example of the amazingly high rate of prostitution in South Korea, and the clubs and bars on every corner that cater to old pasty ASIAN businessmen every day......................IN the same way, all Asian men are NOT foi boys. Some Asian men are perfectly healthy and confident and balanced, and they don't give a shit who people date. They certainly don't hang around on boards and chirp and whine like schoolgirls about white men and asian women. And, as is common, these Asian men are not posing as white men or as Asian women posting things directly for the purposes of making white men look shitty and bad — which they have been called out for on other boards - an act which is desperately creepy............................................. ....................................... ....................................... ....................................... ....................................... So- I don't know if Asian men will concede this to white men (that there is a huge difference between a fetish and attraction - on both sides - and all white men who are somehow connected with Asia do not have a "fetish") but I will not stoop to the place the foi boys and delusional asian women go - All ASIANS ARE NOT THE SAME! And some of them are my good friends. Peace out.
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TheTruthTeller 09/08/2010 7:11:00 AM
LOL. I just love how the Asian-nazi's are out in force on this board. We got Asian women (most of whom are probably dog ugly) giving utterly no proof that there is some sort of bizarre fetish for them -- and then just saying it exists. LOL. Um, sorry girls. Many of you are ugly as a fucking clock. There is simply no general fetish for you simply because you have black hair and dark eyes. As one of the posters mentioned, yes: you are NOT all beautiful. Some of you are fat and ugly. LOL.
When the hell were ALLLL Asian women beautiful, for shit sake? LMAO!
And by the way, have some of you Asian female fuglies looked around at all the amazing hot NON-ASIAN women? LOL. That's what I thought. Trust me: non-Asian men are not in wont of hot non-Asian women. Um. Sorry bout that, asian women. but I gotta hand it to miss asian fugly below - Erika proclaims "it also suggests that asian-american girls are not buying any of the ridiculous excuses/justifications/outright lies that asiaphiles use to try to convince them that they're not just creepy dudes with yellow fever." LOL - because Erika the ugly asian girl says I'm a fetishist, well, then dammit (add cute goofy smiley here) -- I am!!!! LOL. Um, no, sorry Erika. I have no fetish for you just because you are asian.
Next, I gotta tell ya: the foi boys are out in full forces here on the board. Foi boys are the whiny little asian guys that are desperately insecure about asian women dating non-Asian men. They just cannot handle it, poor little guys! This is specifically because they suffer from Asian Male Insecurity Syndrome (AMIS). AIMS is detectable from all the goofy angry posts on boards like this from asian males. They whine and bitch and say goofy stuff about how "all non-Asian men have asian fetishes.." blah blah, when everyone in the WORLD except for Asians knows the TRUTH:
ASIAN MEN ARE THE ONES WITH THE CREEPIEST ASIAN FETISHES!!
I have heard asian men say the worst things about asian women -- the very things they accuse ME of saying! LOL. Like "Oh yeah, I gotta have some yellow, those white girls aren't conservative." READ: Asian guys like asian women because they know their place. Also READ: I can't get a white girl, so I am going to protect the area that I can get because my parents set me up with a native girl who is impressed that I speak english and got a degree from a community college in LA. LOL.
I know one dude who is married - admittedly - to a very beautiful asian women. (And no - LOL - just because I say that some asian women are attractive does NOT mean I have a fetish, but good try all you fuglies and foiboys!! LOL) But the little dude is fat (looks like the Asian Pilsbury dough boy for yikes sake!!) and looks 14 years old!! When they are together it's a firkin' cartoon! LOL. But his dad is a VIP and the girl basically had to go for the arrangement when her parents set her up. And yeah - you guessed it - she's always, ahem, checking other guys out.
So that is precisely why the foi boys are desperate to thoroughly demonize white men everywhere. You see them everywhere on the internet whining and bitching and saying REALLY bizarre creepy things about people they have never met. You can pick them out by their bizarre penchant to make sure that there asian female friends are thoroughly "warned" about the "asian fetish" men. AGain - it's the goofy asian men that have the fetish ALREADY!
Listen, I lived in Asia. On every firking corner there is a bar or whatever full of young women waiting to give pasty, nasty old business men blowjobs and backrubs for a $25 tip. Some of them are under-age too. In Korea (BTW - Korean foi boys are the worst!!) 12% of the female population is involved in prostitution of one form or another. Just read an article about how South Korean men - and ugly old south korean women lol - are probably the most prolific traffickers of prostitutes out of south korea. They bring them in from Mexico illegally for God's sake, then the pimp south korean guys force the women to have sex with them, then cheat them out of all their money.
http://articles.sfgate.com/2006-10-09/news/17316370_1_border-patrol-trafficking-agents
http://www.newser.com/story/comments/94221/ny-madam-forced-korean-women-into-sex-slavery.html?sms_ss=email
Hmm.. welcome to reality.
AND THEN THE ASIAN NAZIS CALL NON-ASIAN MEN "FETISHISTS"
Usually -- and of course not always -- Korean males are the worst foi boys. Some korean males are CONSTANTLY whining, bitching, and chirping like schoolgirls when they feel insecure about white men dating asian women. Of course, as everybody knows, it is commonplace in Korea for women who date white men to be excoriated in horrible, inhumane ways, sometimes including internet exposes and calls for surveillance and harassment of the couple. Not many Koreans think this is wrong or a violation of individual rights.
But listen: though the foi boys around here will not make this qualification about non-asian men who date asian women --- not all Asian men are foi boys. BUT -- when you are trying to figure out who has AMIS, and who the foi boys are, the symptoms are as follows:
1. Horrible stereotyping.
Yes! Is not this ALWAYS TRUE, without fail: the white guy is always a loser and the asian girl is always dumb and stupid. LOL. Yep: This ridiculous stereotype is probably the most obvious symptom of asian men suffering from AMIS. The truth is that people are attracted to eachother for many different kinds of reasons. Who thehell are you to judge when something is OK or not OK? Foi boys have it all figured out, however. Um, yeah, right. LOL.
2. Burning anger and bitterness bordering on the hunger to commit violence.
Makes one wonder how far some of these foi boys will go to take care of their anger and hatred toward white men and asian women who date them, huh? Makes one wonder if they need therapy before he acts out this burning hatred with violence toward the object of his anger?? Makes you wonder if he'll go Virginia-tech on someone, really....and that is scary.
3. Anonymity.
You will not EVER see foi boys sit down with a white guy and take initiative to try to understand that attraction is completely different than obsession. Foi boys don't care about making the distinction between healthy attraction and a bizarre fetish -- it's just ALL a big fetish to a foi boy.
LMAO -- YOU JUST GOTTA LOVE THE MYTHOLOGIES AROUND THIS THING!!!
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sara 07/14/2010 7:57:00 PM
Interesting article,as an asian woman myself the thing I find most bewildered that most white men seems to have unusual fixation on less than physically perfect asian girl,I should said most interracial couple I met the asian girls are rarely what I considered attractive enough to draw a second glance from asian men,so I'm curious is it the best asian women that white men could get or they simply fell in love with her inner beauty they simply want her because they fell she is more feminine or submissive.If the latter is true then I must say stereotypes that asian women are passive is definitely still alive.There is one woman from my town,she is being stalked by this white american even though she is married.She reported to the police but the american managed to escaped but the interesting is most local keep pointing out that stalked victim is hardly considered beautiful(at least by our standard).So we all wondering what exactly does he sees in her.It should be mention the guy is not some ugly fat white dude that you often seen visiting prostitutes in Thailand or Phillipine.He is not particularly good looking but he is definitely decent looking.He could have stalked a better looking victim but he choose her which kind of odd to me.i think this should be great topic for someone to write on.
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Crispin 05/28/2010 8:21:00 AM
Fuck the entire damn asian race. What is this, the Salem Witch Trials all over again. All you bitches comin on here and accusing all white men of having fetishes well fuck you. Your probably attracted to something too, how would you like it if you were officialy banned from being with someone your physicaly attracted to because of some bull-shit accusation?
How about this, why dont you tell me of a way to change what your attracted to? Cant think of one? THEN SHUT THE FUCK UP! and bring your conservative bull-shit somewhere else.
One more thing, just to make you feel nice and special, all this bull-shit accusing worked, at least on me it did. Everywhere I go I get dirty looks from asian cunts, even the one im NOT attracted to and NEVER look at. Surely your life feels fulfilled, finaly got revenge on the white man.
Have fun having no souls, you chink, dog-eating, communist piss-puddles.
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yip 05/23/2010 12:10:00 AM
Regarding the asian women mentioned in this article, and who seem to 'tire' of men with yellow fever, I'd be curious to know how many of them systematically date NON-asian men? I find that often the VERY women who 'complain' about guys with yellow fever...that they themselves only date non-asian men. But ya gotta hand it to them...it's a very clever ploy indeed. Try to paint the man as the predator, and she as his 'innocent' victim. Try to say that he chose her, and not the opposite. (You think women don't have ways of showing a man her interest, or in the case of asian men, her LACK of interest?)
I don't think there's as much yellow fever out there as asian women love to purport (like the Asian FEMALE author of this article for e.g.). Rather I think it's many asian women who have white fever (and now more of them, BLACK fever). And the non-asian men are simply taking advantage of that which the asian women make READILY available to them, as any guy would. For a non-asian man to date an asian female, it's like taking candy from a baby.
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Dylan 05/02/2010 1:44:00 AM
Eh. Race is a physical attribute like any other. These men described in this article are sick bastards, but be careful. Just because a man is non-Asian and attracted to you doesn't mean he's a sick bastard. The race trap goes both ways. Respect people as individuals rather than considering their physical attributes as a reason to either glorify or disregard. If you think Asians are hot, that's your deal, but don't think of it as any more than a physical preference, like hair colour or height. They're not your submissive, demure, little Oriental lotus blossoms. If you're an Asian, don't disregard all whites because of some racist twat who wanted you to be.
Me, I'll be glad to see humanity all become the same brown mutt. Then we can get past all this "racial identity" crap. If that's not a good reason for marrying "out," I don't know what is.
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Julia 04/18/2010 5:32:00 AM
I think, it's very important for asian families to communicate with their children and loved ones about this matter..... Very important for asian parents to have OPEN discussions on this subject..... NOBODY should have to become a victim of fetishism... All too often, asian men are too laid-back and silent... It's time for a change, start caring and commmunicating with your loved ones....
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Julia 04/18/2010 4:51:00 AM
For Carissa, you should consider yourself lucky, they were only ''looking'' at you, and didn't stalk or assaulted you.... 15 years ago, asian women were more like green peas, unnoticed, you can step over them, without even knowing it, and today, we're suppose to be cool and exotic or whatever stereotyped nonsense... It's become increasingly tiresome being asian women in America, especially one who's conscious of these matters.... I would like to know, WHEN we'll be viewed by majority as just normal, ordinary people.....
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Cc 04/02/2010 11:10:00 AM
I agree with most of the article, having witnessed non-Asian men come on to Asian women with racist lines in the US and in Asia. For some bizarre reason, these same men have also sometimes confided in me, an Asian man, about their Asian fetishes using similarly unpleasant language. But, to be fair, I think the article does not take discuss the many times when Asian women respond positively to non-Asian (esp. white) men who say stuff like "I love your people's eyes" or "Asian women are so exotic".
There's a white fetish among plenty of Asian women, too, and this article completely skips over it. The numbers aren't equal, I don't think--probably WAY more guys with Asian fetishes than Asian women with white fetishes--but Asian women are not always blameless victims as this article implies.
In sum, there are plenty of gross fetishes all around.
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Andrea 04/01/2010 5:14:00 AM
If you're bitter, you're guilty.
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Cindy 03/22/2010 1:43:00 PM
This article is so funny, but true!
I've not been to the US yet, but have had creepy experiences in many other countries (I'm Singaporean Chinese).
Once in Athens on holiday, my friends and I were partying in a club, we were the center of attention from all the Greek guys there, I think coz they hardly get to see any Chinese girls there. One guy actually grabbed me while I was on the dance floor and said "I love your eyes! I've always wanted to fuck a girl with eyes like yours"... creepy or what? My friends and I actually had to pretend to be lesbian just to get them to leave us alone.
Turkish men are even worse with their asian fetish, I actually got hit on twice within the first 10 mins of landing in Ataturk International Airport, even before collecting my luggage.
I don't have any problem with caucasian guys (my boyfriend happens to be French), just guys who objectify/have a creepy fetish with asian girls.
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Gavin 02/21/2010 6:26:00 AM
I agree, mostly, to this article. Ok, there are some weirdos out there that are definitely obsessed to a certain degree with Asia but all this article does is belittle any relationship a non-Asian man has with an Asian woman as someone else has mentioned here.
I'm a white male and as a kid, a few of the first people I considered genuinely good friends (who I'm still friends with now) are 2 guys born in Ireland, from their Hong Kong parents.
There's a fairly large Chinese population growing in Dublin these days and my scenario probably places me more in the mix as a result of some of my friends and their friends.
I've went on holidays with them on a few occasions to Hong Kong as they try to go there at least once a year. They've showed me all around the place. The good parts, the bad parts.. you name it.
From an outsider looking in, I will admit that I was stunned by the number of attractive women over there at times but I think some of that can be put down to the saying - 'the grass is always greener'.
Humans, as a race, are naturally going to be attracted to other races/ethnicities because it ensures the preservation of the species.
In more crude terms... pure-bred dogs are the ones that have lots of health problems and the dogs that are mixed with other breeds (mongrels) are the ones that will live longer/healthier.
[Please don't even try to interpret that as me saying people of different ethnicities are mongrels/similar to dogs.]
Anyways, as a result of my life experiences, I've definitely grown intrigued with Hong Kong, China and probably Asia as a whole.
I would definitely go back on holiday somewhere in Asia again sometime in my life and maybe venture to a different country to sample their lifestyle and culture just like I have done with Hong Kong.
We're all attracted to whatever we're attracted to.... Personally, I think my preferences are similar to most in that an attractive woman is just that... attractive... regardless of where they're from.
However, in saying that, is it really that much of an issue to be attracted to a good looking Asian woman.. provided she is what you would deem attractive rather than being attracted purely to the fact she is Asian/Part-Asian.
The way the author speaks of how her friend 'Christina' is always courted by lots of men sounds a tad envious to me.
I would find it hard to believe that 'Christina' would write an article like this because, despite some of the bad attention she gets, I'm sure there are plenty of times where the good attention more than makes up for it.
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Jozef 02/17/2010 6:46:00 PM
Love the article, especially the last section. For me personally too an eye-opener. I think I've got to step by my nearby shrink helping me to stop this loathfull addiction toward asian beauties. I apparently got to learn to love ladies with hair on all the wrong places, with sagging tummies and breasts, with deathly pale or darkblack skintones, with dyed hair, botoxed faces. I got to.....I got to.......
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erika 02/14/2010 12:08:00 AM
yep, definitely hit a nerve. great article.
just another pinkerton wrote:
"Most responses by white guys here have been sane rational and mature with many commenting (rightly so) that much commentary written about "Asiaphilia" is nothing more than a collection personal anecdotes and wild unsubstantiated claims."
^lol. did you read the same article/comments i read? it was difficult to catch any 'rational' or 'mature' points between all the huffing and puffing going on in here.
you guys are obviously just pissed because this article suggests that, like asian men and non-asian women, even asian women are pretty much grossed out by asiaphiles.
it also suggests that asian-american girls are not buying any of the ridiculous excuses/justifications/outright lies that asiaphiles use to try to convince them that they're not just creepy dudes with yellow fever.
thought you all were pretty sneaky, huh?
gt :)
also, vincent fuller, you ARE a dirtbag.
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Jim 02/07/2010 9:22:00 PM
QUOTE: "oooh, hit a nerve with the white babies, huh? boo hoo. someone called them out on their disgusting fetish and they decide to lash out and attack the victim. who are they kidding? they're disgusting and they know it. can't stand the heat? get out of the kitchen."
What a blatant case of psychological projection! Most responses by white guys here have been sane rational and mature with many commenting (rightly so) that much commentary written about "Asiaphilia" is nothing more than a collection personal anecdotes and wild unsubstantiated claims. The irony of your use of the insult of "babies" is quote ironic considering that your post was incredibly juvenile.
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Steve 12/11/2009 6:33:00 AM
What ever happened to hitting on a girl because you thought they were cute? Now there's a sickness involved with it! Awesome!
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Dominique 04/12/2009 1:13:00 AM
While the article makes a good assessment of a lot of the incarnations of Asian Fetishism the idea that sterotypes about Asian or Asian American women as being better than those of Asian or Asian American me is severely flawed. These so called "positive stereotypes" are just as detrimental to women as those of men. The exotic virgin/whore or geisha/dragon-lady images of Asian women have been used to sexualized Asian Am women and justify misogyny and rape. All too often I have been approached by a white guy who thinks I should thank the very heavens that he has shown interest in my yellow/brown self. After all, "isn't it every Asian women's dream to be with a "superior" white man?" Give me an effin' break.
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Vincent Fuller 03/26/2009 4:20:00 AM
Great, now I feel like a dirtbag for trying to meet asian women.
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me 03/14/2009 8:29:00 AM
oooh, hit a nerve with the white babies, huh? boo hoo. someone called them out on their disgusting fetish and they decide to lash out and attack the victim. who are they kidding? they're disgusting and they know it. can't stand the heat? get out of the kitchen.
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kw 01/26/2009 2:23:00 AM
cry me a fucking river beatch!! im sure your only attracted to your little d asian men huh! every asian girl ive ever waxed has loved the holy hell out of it and me cause i treated them well, and banged them well, i didn't have to control them, have you ever heard of asian women wanting to score a white guy.,its probaly more popular than asiaphelia or whatever its called, you all love it and you know it, while your reading this ill be runnin thru another asian cause im such a bad person, idiot!!
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Robert 12/31/2008 8:34:00 PM
There are definitely some pervs out there, and I think this is a valid concern. I've dated two asian women, and 8 white women (i'm white), but every time I dated an asian girl we had to have a "fetish" talk when i had to prove i did not have an asian fetish. One girl asked me if i was attracted to her BECAUSE she was asian...how the hell do i answer that? I was attracted to HER, she was pretty, I didn't think it was a racial thing.
What stings about this article is having my current relationship with an Asian girl reduced to a simple fetish. I've always thought I had an unhealthy obsession with redheads, but nope, date an Asian girl and that becomes your "fetish." I'm with this girl because she's assertive in our relationship, she's smart, and she's considerate. Yea, try telling someone you like your Asian girlfriend because she's considerate...they instantly give you crap about some sort of racial fetish! Ironically, when we met, her considerate, kind nature reminded me more of my giant Irish-Catholic family, so i felt like we shared some personal values.
Anyway, it is a problem, but remember some of us are just nice white boys who met nice asian girls. do i think she's pretty or nice because she's asian? Who knows! If you figure out some way to like de-asianfy her let me know, we'll take the asian genes out of her and we'll see if i still love her!
oh, oh and one last thing. I'm an international relations major, so not surprisingly i ended up taking a clas on Chinese Foreign policy...uh oh, everyone thought my fetish might be spreading. It's damn China, the fastest rising power in the world. kinda had to study it at some point in my field, just like i had previously studied the middle east, europe and africa.
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Jesse 12/07/2008 3:50:00 PM
Asian women complaining about White men liking them� talk about making a mountain out of a mole hill and finding one more excuse to cry about race and gender stereotypes.
If a person is attracted to you, quit worrying about the motive and just accept that he finds you attractive. This problem seems to be almost exclusively a female thing: Men seldom care why a woman is attracted to him; so long as women are attracted to him. And women are never satisfied with the reasons a man is attracted to her. Love a woman for any physical feature, and you've objectified her. Love her for anything other than her looks and she feels ugly and will start asking a million insecurity questions like "do you think that girl's prettier than I am?" and so on. You can't win when it comes to women; they'll always have something to gripe about.
And when it comes to race: of course every White person is an evil blue eyed devil who is filled with racial stereotypes; because only White people stereotype or have racist feelings.
How come stereotypes that redheads are hot tempered and passionate, isn't being discussed? Because they're White, and don't count.
How come stereotypes that blondes are dumb or "easy", isn't being discussed? Because they're White, and don't count.
It's possible that I fit the definition of an asiaphile, at least in the sense that I tend to think Asian women are prettier (per average) than women of any other race. However, the whole stereotype that Asian women are respectful and submissive is complete bull. In fact, it has been my unfortunate experience that Asian American women tend to be the most rude and disrespectful people in America. This has always puzzled me. Asian men seem to be as diverse as any other racial group when it comes to being polite and respectful. But Asian women, the overwhelming majority, are down right rude. It doesn't seem to matter what age they are.
I keep reminding myself that I shouldn't judge them all because of a few bad apples. But when nearly every apple in the cart is rotten, you eventually have to except it's a cart of rotten apples. Sorry I couldn't come up with a better analogy.
The thing I am curious about is whether the phenomenon of "rude Asian women" is caused by a genetic predisposition, or whether it's just a cultural thing.
I wonder if Asian women are rude in their native lands?
Do they act rude because they are a minority in America?
Is it a form of rebellion against "White America"?
Are they only rude to White people (i.e. racism)?
If I had to come up with a wild theory, I'd say that the "rude Asian woman" phenomenon is based on Asian girls rebelling against stereotypes, i.e. "if White America thinks I am submissive and respectful because I'm Asian, than I'm going to act the exact opposite and be rude and disrespectful, so that I can break the stereotype".
Well that's my personal theory on why nearly every Asian American woman tends to be rude.
Of course there is always the possibility that they are only rude to me as an individual and really sweet to everyone else. I'm not saying it's a universal fact that the majority of Asian American women are rude - I can only tell you what my eyes have seen. And again, it's such a shame because Asian women (per capita in America) tend to be so beautiful physically.
But about this Asian-fetish: Who cares!? Does it matter whether White men are just trying to live out some fantasy? In the end, all human beings make all decisions for ultimately selfish reasons; we just don't admit it to ourselves or others.
And how can someone "love you for who you are" when the human mind is so complicated know one can truly "know" another person's mind, we can't even truly know ourselves.
In the end, all love, mating, dating, attraction, is superficial and self serving.
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SAC 10/27/2008 9:10:00 AM
You know I never knew racism existed until I joined the Military and started having mandatory classes on it. I did a million pushups in basic during in-processing because I refused to fill out block 9 (race) "why was that important?" Anyway I sold out flipped a coin and settled on AMERIND. And in the many years since and all the countries I've visited I've learned ONE THING... Stereotypes be damned. There are cultural differences but don't confuse those differences with personal actions, or homogenize an entire "race" or "ethnicity" into a stereotypical role. It�s all BS. My dad was right People are People and if you want to discuss their actions discuss psychology and "the Pleasure Principle". As far as the ABC�s, ABK�s, ABJ�s and the rest of the ABA�s (American born Asians). I applaud this author for being American first and simply pissed for being lumped in a role simply because of her features. We need more Americans in America. Bottom line don't do what you wouldn't want done to you. (doesn't mommy and daddy teach this value anymore?)
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ray wong 09/23/2008 9:54:00 AM
Oh yeah...
When reading the comments, I couldn't help but wonder how many of the men making negative comments against the author are actually Asian?
Nuff said.
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ray wong 09/23/2008 9:48:00 AM
Guys, if you wish to pretend it doesn't exist, then so be it. You're entitled to your opinion.
As an Asian Australian guy, I see it happen all the time.
And it pisses me off... bad.
Years ago (heh... better make that a decade ago), when I was studying at Sydney U, I'd mide the mistake of introducing a good friend of Caucasian friend of mine to my other friends, most of whom were Singaporean or Malaysian.
Tell you what: didn;t take him long to make the transformation from 'nice' guy to absolute monster.
Dated one girl, ditched her.
Dated another, saw someone else while dating her.
Had the gall to be angry when she expressed her objection to his actions.
Was so arrogant, he even remarked that he believed his being Australian (read: White) made him much more attractive to Chinese girls.
It just went on and on, and I didn't realise what was happening untill he tried to hit on someone he KNEW I was interested in, and his then-girlfirend blew the whistle on him.
Blinkers off, I confronted him about it, and told him (in no uncertain terms) that we weren't friends anymore. I believe my language might have been more colourful then!
I'm not saying that it's the same with all Caucasians, but sadly, I've detected the 'need-to-be-dominant' undercurrent Vickie speaks of in many observed relationships. Some idiots even try to be stupid with my wife (can you beat that?). Usually, I give them my best perfected-through-serious-martial-arts-training 'death stare', and that's enough to settle the matter.
Usually.
Bloody ridiculous to have to put up with this garbage, but unfortunately, I believe that a) it's real, and b) it exists.
Good for you, Vickie! You just keep telling like it is!
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James 09/19/2008 10:29:00 AM
I agree with many other commenters on this article in that it is clearly biased and overly generalized. For crying out loud, the finishing argument is that some deranged individual did a complete about turn and decided to stereotype all female asians as nasty. And thats better? I think this writers real agenda is to promote white guys not getting into interacial relationships. This article is an embarrasment to journalism.
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Matt 09/07/2008 9:48:00 PM
Oh yeh, and when we met, she came onto me!
Peace
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Matt 09/07/2008 9:39:00 PM
Oh, Come on guys!!!!!
I found this article interesting but also quite disturbing, and not for the reason the author intended. Did it not occur to the author (or many of the readers) that the use of vague anecdotal 'evidence' to support a pre-supposed hypothesis about a certain 'type' of people is, in itself, highly steroetyped and cliched????
I acknowledge, as with many other respondees, that the phenomenon described in the article does indeed exist, and may be attributed IN SOME CASES to the factors discussed there-in. However, the author is playing a dangerous game in generalising this phenomenon in the way described, and in utilising these individual cases in asserting the existence of a wider social phenomenon of asian-fetishism.
Are there not such stereotypes perpetrated toward those of any ethnic origin, including caucasians of all nationailities, ages, and both genders?? I beleive there are!!!
Is it not further the case that many Asian woman are attracted to a stereotype of white males also somewhat related to conolian heritage and generalisations of character perpetrated through modern media and cultural interaction?? Of course they are!!
I am not sure exactly what the author is trying to say. That the above phenomenon makes many asians fearful of interacial relationships due to concerns that they will be culturally stereotypes? That those who engage in such relationships are doing their 'ethnicity' a diss-service by perpetrating these steroetypes?? That 'shit happens'??
Anyway, for my own case, I am an English guy (24) who has been in a loving relationship with an awesome young lady (aged 26) for five years. This girl just happens to be Chinese! I was attracted to her because she is beautiful (as i was with all my previous English and European guirlfriends) and i have stayed with her because we are good together. For our part, I am a mature student, who works in a shop. She is a business MA graduate who now works for an international corporation! My fmaily have very little, i am paying myself through my studies. Her dad is incredibly wealthy and is a minister for international trade in his home city. She is incredibly dominant, impetulant and fiercly independant. Though i have my moments, i am fairly demure and subdued, and could be described as reasonable submissive in terms of my relationship role. She loves Rush Hour, Hollywood teen comedies and listening to Mandy Moore! I hate anything commercial, listen to drum and bass and metal and watch independant cinema, the more progressive the better.
In short, we are chalk and cheese, and have never been happier. We are an 'inter-ratial couple' though we confirm to none of the steroetypes mentioned above. We do not even think of ourselves as 'inter-ratial' and I am only reminded of this fact when we very occasionally experience old-fashioned pressumptions on our relationships from strangers, such as those expressed in the above article!!! (oh, and when she gets a phone call from her mum in china!)
I am attempting to learn some Chinese, because that is where my lovely partner wants to be. She doesn't want to 'buy into' the western lifestyle or marry me to give herself a better life. I don;t especially care for asian girls or culture, though i respect it, i fully acknowledge that any culuture and peoples are diverse and multifaceted. I love my own country, my own people, and i still find western girls equally attractive and have many western female friends.
In short, we are nothing like the article describes. You may say 'Well, we are a minority, an exception!' and this is exactly the point which i wish to make here; I would say in response to this that, NO, WE ARE THE NORM!! Those described in this article are by far the exception. Ignorance and steroetype exist in all cultures and societies, and toward all others. A couple of my girlfriends mates clearly admire the fact that she has 'done well' snaring a foreign guy, and would like to follow suit; If only they knew me and the sacrifices she has made for our love :-)
Basically, these people exist yeh, but they are a dying breed in age of globalisation and multi-culturalism. I used to live in a city where I, as a white male, was a minority. My city was predominantly inhabited by Asian immigrants from Pakistan and India. And you know? I didn't give a s***!!! As i said, these people are dying out, and it seems the authors article is only written to ensure that such steroetypes are perpetrated and re-iterated through modern technology!!! Basically poeple, i would say, if you don;t want people to judge you like that, why on earth are you judging older, dodgy, and culturally misguided white males like that?? The majority of them are probably married to white women, you just don't see them in an asian club when you are on tyhe lookout for asian-seeking white males to prove an outdated hypothesis!!!!
Haha, makes me laugh, really does.
Anyway, one final point;
How are stereotypes addressed and combated????
Whether they be based upon culture, ethnicity, gender, disability, size, hair colour, taste in music or fashion, ecenomic status, or any other number of equally pertinent and widespread prejudices, THEY ARE COMBATED THROUGH EXPERIENCE! T
hrough cultural interaction with those who you may previously judged, but then meet, and go 'hold on a minute, i was wrong!' This is how people change, and how such circumstances are decreased in our modern culutural condition. Are not those who are desribed in derogative terms in the article above engaged in this process?? Will the ignorant white man searching for a submissive and sexually exotic asian girl not be set to rights when that young asian girl tells him to go and f*** himself?!?!?! I remember when one of my old Pakistani mates set me straight when i assumed he wouldn't drink. He simply said 'I am not a Muslim mate, I'm British.', cracked open a bottle of lager and offered my a joint!
I understand what everyone here is saying, and i hope they understand me too. Just be careful what you say guys, and be careful not to do what you condemn others for doing!
I'm done, Peace.
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isobel 08/27/2008 12:53:00 PM
Great article! And sooooo true! As a Chinese-American female, I concur. However, Asiaphilia didn't really begin until the mid-nineties, when Jackie Chan and Jet Li started making a big splash in Hollywood. Before them, whenever you see a "Chinaman" in a cartoon or movie, it is usually a bad drawing of person with a bowl haircut or a pigtail braid and two slanted lines for eyes, and the scene is usually accompanied by the same traditional Chinese instrumental that ends with the sound of a loud gong. Sad but true, the opinions of the masses are way too controlled by what they see on TV.
I went to elementary school in the 80s in the most racist white neighborhood and was called horrible names, teased and picked on for being Asian. There were a couple of African-American kids in the class but they were left alone, and I'm assuming this is because the white kids were taught by their parents that it is wrong to outwardly show their racist feelings towards African-Americans, but I guess they forgot to add Asians and perhaps other ethnic minorities into the lesson. Then, everything changed when I entered high school in the 90s -- suddenly everyone is interested in Chinese martial arts, Chinese medicine, Chinese this, Chinese that, or Japanese this, Korean that, Vietnamese etc., and Asians are now exotic and cool. lol
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Arianna 08/20/2008 1:40:00 PM
The people taking this article personally are completely missing the point. She is not talking about white men being jerks. She is talking about a pop culture fascination that is prevalent in America's white population. A common idea that Asian women are exotic, trendy and subservient. Gwen Stefani's Harajuku Girls are a prime example of this phenomenon since they are meant to be all three of these things.
Before going off on this article PLEASE read the whole thing and think about it for a minute or two. The examples she is using of creepy white men come from personal experience, and you should not write them off simply because you feel exempt.
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Arianna 08/20/2008 1:34:00 PM
The question, "Where are you REALLY from?" (which is asked by a lot of white people, actually) says it all. Just because you don't necessarily qualify as an Asiaphiliac doesn't mean that you don't ask this question. It also doesn't mean that you don't hastily lump Asians together. That happens all the time, and it is totally ignorant, if not racist.
But the blame can be on Asians as well. Part of the reason for why no one is outraged about Stefani's Harajuku girls is because Asians don't put up enough of a fuss--or if they do, are ignored. In Oakland, CA an semi-famous entertainer used the slur "Chinamen" on cable television during an interview. I think the comment had something to do with how you don't ever see "Chinamen" working at a McDonalds. So it was meant to be a compliment (I guess). Nevertheless, it was a racial slur, AND it was patronizing. My aunt quickly tried to rectify the situation by pulling strings and trying to make him publicly apologize, but her sentiments went ignored. Many of the older generations of Asians in the Bay Area, the immigrant parents and whatnot, would say to her, "It's okay, he meant it as a compliment." Thus, the reason for why we have the reputation of being submissive could be traced back to colonialism (and in some ways I think it is), but at the same time, I think Asians tend to show more of these traits--especially those of the older generation who put up with a lot of crap due to the cultural belief that hard work and a good education eventually leads to success.
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Ron 08/19/2008 8:09:00 AM
Its amazing how the writer talks about people stereotyping an entire race/gender of Asian women then stereotypes all the guys that like Asian women as Asiaphiles...
It might be a shock to you but there are actually some guys out there that are not jerks or seeking domination in a relationship...
There might be some guys that think Asian women are beautiful just like Asian men do...they just notice and recognize their beauty.
But what do I know....I'm probably just some ego-maniac that has a 'fetish' (fetish definition means only sexual desires with inanimate objects). So it sounds like to me that you are prejudiced to interracial relationships because you sound like its not 'normal'.
oh well, the number of interracial relationships has been going up for a long time. You'd better get used to seeing it.
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J 08/18/2008 4:47:00 AM
I suppose all the Asians learning English are Ameriphiles? Perverts? Get over it! This is racist. Oh wait, men can objectify women in every other dimension; but race, that's special. Bi-racial coupling is not going away anytime soon....
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Joe Nameth 08/17/2008 10:45:00 PM
Boo fuckin hoo
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Meg 08/04/2008 1:01:00 AM
"When someone homogenizes an entire race of people�even if that homogenization tends toward desirable�that someone is creating a wall between himself and the person in question."
That quote says it all.
I've had many of the same experiences, but am not Asian. I'm Black female and my friends and I sit around and joke about "melanin chasers" that have somehow, for some reason, decided that Black women are more aggressive in bed and I assume, think we're easier prey because we'll be flattered that a White male is interested in us (I had a guy all but come out and say that). I shouldn't just blame White men, because I've had a couple of different ethnicities pull the same tricks.
All you can really do is, like you said, brush it off. It doesn't even annoy me anymore, Honestly, it's really just another good way to filter out someone who isn't seeing you for what you are. Great article.
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Carissa 07/28/2008 6:21:00 AM
I'm a British-born Asian, although I never realised before reading your article that "Yellow Fever" was so bad.
Now I partly understand why perverted-looking middle-aged white men look at me in the street. I've always felt disgusted by it as I'm only 16!
You've made the same point in your article: the point that we Asian ladies want to be accepted for WHO we are, our substance, our individuality, the thing that makes everyone unique, and not this idea formed that Asians are all the same and only good for one thing.
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kim 07/01/2008 11:29:00 PM
i used to frequent "Le Prive" back in it's hey-day all the time and for the record- asian men and women did not go there out of desperation to meet someone and the women did not gather around the center and wait to be "booked" by the men who were able to afford tables. people went there b/c it was a fun night club with their friends and the waiters literally dragged unsuspecting women by their arms and threw them down at tables filled with men- sometimes they would even grab girls from their own table of girls, which they were paying for by themselves. you're not helping your artile by portraying asian/asian american men in the same light as the asiaphiles and implying the women didn't put up a fight and gathered around like cattle to be "picked".
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JBD Lives 05/08/2008 1:27:00 PM
The only way to counter this pernicious effect in society is to have more couples of White Girl With Asian Guy, or WGWAG.
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katznaperr 04/06/2008 1:19:00 PM
Wow, so should I feel guilty about my happy marriage of 7 years to my Japanese wife that has produced two wonderful children? Speaking as a white guy married to an Asian I admit there are pervs out there and they should best beware of my daughters but sometimes it just works and it has nothing to do colonialism or fetishism.
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Lisa 01/17/2008 8:54:00 AM
Vickie,
Weezer's album "Pinkerton" might be a reference to his love of asian women- Pinkerton was the title character of David Henry Hwang's play " M. Butterfly", where the title character, Pinkerton, so entrenched in his love/objectification of an opera singer, doesn't even realise that she is really a he. Great read...
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karebare 11/13/2007 1:08:00 PM
all women are beautiful.
