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It was actually thanks to Freds sexless girlfriend that he eventually got ever his addiction. She would forbid me to use the computer, he says, real distrustful, paranoid stuff. Still, having time away from the internet helped him move on.
These days, Fred has a different girlfriend, and his years of non-stop cybering are in the past. Im in a very healthy relationship now that allows me to meet all my needs, he says. I have cybersex sometimes for fun, but Im definitely not addicted. Even Dr. Young attests, cybersex is a normal and healthy aspect of learning about ones sexuality. Its when it consumes you when it interferes with life, that it becomes an addiction.
So dont worry, Worried. Cybersex addiction doesnt swoop down from the skies in mass numbers, like some sort of online epidemic. Stay in control of yourself, and your chance of addiction are rare. And remember, there's always regular old porn!
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Click Me runs on villagevoice.com on Mondays. Got a question about cybersex? Write to your friendly cyberhood sexpert Bonnie Ruberg to ask advice or share stories about sex and the internet: bonnie [at] heroine-sheik [dot] com.