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Girls Love Gay Male Porn

Brokeback Mountain was just the beginning . . .

I just got back from a weekend at the University of California at Santa Barbara, where I attended "Console-ing Passions: An International Conference on Television, Audio, Video, New Media, and Feminism. It was three days of geeking out with academics about TV, the Internet, and various kinds of media studies—who knew that people are getting their Ph.D.'s in Battlestar Galactica and The Hills these days? Naturally, the first panel I went to was all about porn, with four scholars presenting papers on lesbian identity politics and pornography, the 1980s cult hit Café Flesh and its '90s sequel, the industry in Vietnam, and bad-boy director/current Justice Department target Max Hardcore, that last topic featuring the best title ever: "Scrunchies, Braces, and Throat Fucking: Performances of Girlhood in Gonzo Porn."

A bunch of women stuck around afterwards to continue the discussion that the panel had, um, stimulated, and we began talking about the kind of porn we all watched. Someone brought up the work of Shine Louise Houston's Pink and White Productions (pinkwhite.biz), a San Francisco–based company that describes its mission as creating "adult entertainment that exposes the complexities of queer sexual desire . . . dedicated to producing sexy and exciting images that reflect today's blurred gender lines and fluid sexualities." She thought it was amazing; I chimed in and said, "Yes, it's diverse, radical, and I totally applaud Houston's vision."

Another person chimed in: "Do you like fag porn? All my queer female friends do." Hers wasn't a surprising question. I know lesbians who dig it more than any other kind of hardcore fare. I briefly dated a genderqueer dyke who just loved gay male porn: She ran out and got the newest title from her favorite company the day it came out. In this case, she adored movies from Bel Ami (belamionline.com), which feature young, hairless European lads (think the boy-on-boy version of the straight barely-legal genre). The boys are very pretty and androgynous, and some of them could definitely be mistaken for dykes with their clothes on. But other girl-loving girls love über-butch men, leather daddies, and big hairy bears, so it's not always about androgyny. By now, I think it's commonplace to accept that queer women love queer male porn, but what is that all about?

First, let's acknowledge a practical reality: There isn't a whole lot of lesbian porn produced by and for lesbians, or that feels authentic to lesbian viewers. Some dykes can get their fix of queerness—both the lust and the cultural aesthetics—via gay porn, even though it features people of a different gender than those they fuck in real life. Queer is often attracted to queer first and foremost, like when the guy I lusted after in high school turned out to be gay—it makes sense in some way.

And speaking of gender, plenty of lesbians identify with various forms of masculinity: Their own gender expression may be at the masculine end of the spectrum, or they may like to fantasize and play with gender and sex. Gay porn gives them a range of masculine desires to relate to or lust after. For those dykes who themselves identify as fag—or who like butch/butch, boi/boi, or transman/transman sex—they can see a hyper-masculine version of their own sex lives and/or fantasies performed on the small screen.

The phenomenon of straight women who love gay male porn has been documented and was discussed plenty when flocks of females gushed over Brokeback Mountain. When women came out of their fag-loving closet, it illustrated the flip side of a common theory: Plenty of straight men love girl/girl porn because they want to see lots of who they lust after. The same is true for het women: They like to look at hot naked men fucking, and it doesn't really matter that they're fucking each other. I think it may also be true that while pornos full of romance and mood lighting are marketed to women, some prefer a sweaty, get-right-down-to-it romp in the locker room any day. Wired.com columnist Regina Lynn, author of Sexier Sex: Lessons from the Brave New Sexual Frontier, writes that it's not always about identifying with someone in a scene: "For me, gay porn has always been arousing because of its masculinity. The strength and power, plus the double dose of raw male drive and sexuality, add up to more than the sum of their parts."

On Nerve.com, journalist Kera Bolonik admits that she gets off with men onscreen, but not in real life: "Nothing makes me hotter than watching two men going at it. There is something really admirable about gay male porn, at least in principle: it's egalitarian. Everyone gets a turn at the top as well as at the bottom. Everyone comes, and often they do it together." I'm not sure this concept of equality is attractive to everyone (I personally like a hefty dose of power dynamics with my sex), but it supports the notion of seeing some kind of sameness, something non-heterosexual represented. And it also raises the issue that many women, regardless of their orientation, have with porn: their ambivalence or discomfort with seeing female performers when issues of consent, enjoyment, and pleasure are unclear. Somehow, our concerns and feminist politics don't overshadow the sex when women are absent (as if a man could not degrade or coerce another man, which is obviously flawed logic).

I like gay porn for the hot dudes, the overflow of testosterone, and the unapologetic sexual desire. I also like straight porn. But that's a subject for another column.

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  • Dice 11/30/2011 12:47:00 AM

    "For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear." 2 Timothy 4:3 God did not create Steve for Adam, He created Eve!

  • Jollimorebri 11/14/2011 1:10:00 AM

    Im a lesbian and I thought I was the only one. I still don't understand y? I feel like somethings wrong with me. Sense I dnt like guys like that in anyway. So if another lesbian can explain in there own words way. Please help me understand better and feel ok with myself.

  • 10/28/2011 6:57:00 AM

    I love gay male porn! By the way I'm a girl...Sometimes, I love it more than straight porn, coz sometimes the whole heterosexual scene gets a little overly dominent, and the woman is usually reduced to some sex doll, with a huge butchy guy...Whereas in gay though there's a submissive person, there's some sort of an even ground in it as well...( Gaia, I'm so bad at explanations) lolz...;)

  • 09/09/2011 10:25:00 AM

    this is really comforting i thought i was the only straight girl that liked guys going at it. i thought i was weird or needed some kind of help.

  • Rubycandle 08/07/2011 2:01:00 AM

    I agree with you on the women's vaginas in porn. They look NASTY. I'm not straight by any measure of the imagination and I've never seen a girl look like that. It's always been so strange to me...

  • Mirandaburen 07/15/2011 6:49:00 AM

    I'm straight and have been into gay porn for years now and never really thought that it was fairly common!

  • 07/05/2011 11:56:00 AM

    "Girls love gay male porn" YOU DON'T SAY! What, have you been living under a rock for the past 15 years?

  • SasuNaru<3 07/05/2011 8:11:00 AM

    Yay for yaoi ! I like boy x boy because.. well.. I hate the way girls are portrayed when they have sex. It's either unrealistic or realistically annoying. No offense female porn-stars :| Furthermore, I hate fem!anyone. I like it when they're ALL man, not girls with dicks. (..character-wise). :D

  • guest 07/05/2011 5:03:00 AM

    I'm a straight female who enjoys the gay porn. For me it's more that well I just don't want to see females and the guys are way better looking in gay porn.

  • Audreyannajackson 06/22/2011 10:32:00 AM

    I love watching gay porn but I'm definitely a str8 female. I like when both of them have big dicks that both stay hard the whole time & i prefer black men that bareback & cum inside the guy. Sometimes I like when they just frot & both cum together. I hate seeing men and also women suck dick. I also hate seeing men and women jack off. I like watching lesbian porn because I like titties. I hate seeing the vaginas cuz all the pussies in porn look soooooo gross & flabby. My coochie doesn't look ANYTHING like that, so it's disgusting to see that shit. just a mass of skin & most of them u can't even see the clit, or if u search 4 big clits they look gross & like hermaphrodites. So ewwwww no vag! I like titties tho cuz my tits are small. I love big tits. OK I guess I shared wayyyy too much to ttyl.

  • Audreyannajackson 06/22/2011 10:24:00 AM

    he's gay too

  • QwerqIam 06/08/2011 7:29:00 PM

    Thought I was weired bc of like male/male. Weired really. Glad I am not the only one!

  • Gwsukayaoi 05/21/2011 12:16:00 PM

    I knew I'm not alone~ :)

  • 04/17/2011 5:02:00 AM

    When the men do it it doesn't seem as fake as porn with women. As was stated above, everyone cums. When they kiss there is this intense manly vibe that you can almost feel. It's just..good. I have a problem with seeing women and I get turned off, the wetness literally dries up or just doesn't come. The reason is, I can't stand the breasts. People say "everyone loves breasts, even girls," but I cannot look at them and not feel annoyed/depressed because mine will never look all round and perfect like the ones on screen.It really helps that my boyfriend likes watching the gay male porn with me. (:

  • So Turned On 03/30/2011 1:49:00 AM

    I'm soooo glad. I was afraid that I was the only straight girl who got off on gay porn! For me its all about the animalistic nature and how you can tell that both are enjoying it without just acting.

  • Nickey 03/01/2011 9:13:00 AM

    OMG!!! I seriously thought I was the only women who loves male on male porn. Jesus it is the hottest thing in the world to me. I love watching a guy just pound the hell out of another guy. I think it is a power thing for me. I don't feel ashamed anymore and I thank you for that. I thought I was a closet case on this matter.

  • Craigerhecker 02/15/2011 4:02:00 AM

    I'm a very straight female but watching two guys do it is so hot. I'm vey much a size queen and love to watch hung guys face f**k

  • Melissa 12/06/2010 10:42:00 AM

    Thank you for this article. I was looking for an explanation and it was so eloquently put.

  • rose 11/15/2010 2:35:00 AM

    This is really great, and I was kind of worried about myself, to be honest. I'm a straight woman, but I really love gay porn. I sometimes felt guilty after watching it, but its good to know that it isn't that there's something wrong with me.

  • bree 10/22/2010 5:09:00 AM

    glad im not the only one out there who likes male on male! the fact of being with men really makes me sick. I was ashamed of the fact i like mal on male porn. i joked with my girl about it and now she makes fun of me. i try to play it off like it doesnt. she thinks its funny and puts and on and says things to me like oh u like that huh. look at that nasty penis and stuff. makes me feel bad about myself. i rethink about it and wonder if im bi, even thought im not. ,akes me all confused sometimes.

  • bree 10/22/2010 5:09:00 AM

    glad im not the only one out there who likes male on male! the fact of being with men really makes me sick. I was ashamed of the fact i like mal on male porn. i joked with my girl about it and now she makes fun of me. i try to play it off like it doesnt. she thinks its funny and puts and on and says things to me like oh u like that huh. look at that nasty penis and stuff. makes me feel bad about myself. i rethink about it and wonder if im bi, even thought im not. ,akes me all confused sometimes.

  • bree 10/22/2010 5:02:00 AM

    im a lesbian that loves to watch gay porn... I thought it was weird and wrong. sense i love woman! i really thought there was something wrong with me. Im the butch in the relationship.

  • bree 10/22/2010 5:02:00 AM

    im a lesbian that loves to watch gay porn... I thought it was weird and wrong. sense i love woman! i really thought there was something wrong with me. Im the butch in the relationship.

  • Yaline Genao 10/15/2010 7:43:00 AM

    Oh God thanks for posting this. I am 100% sure I'm a lesbian (not all that masculine though, more femme, with some masculine personality aspects) and I was so confused when I realized I like male/male! Thought I was bi, but whew less confusion for me now (already dealt with enough of that)

  • Yaline Genao 10/15/2010 7:43:00 AM

    Oh God thanks for posting this. I am 100% sure I'm a lesbian (not all that masculine though, more femme, with some masculine personality aspects) and I was so confused when I realized I like male/male! Thought I was bi, but whew less confusion for me now (already dealt with enough of that)

 

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