Every straight man I talked to expressed himself in similarly glowing terms. They all seem to understand that the gay-sports leagues have a purpose beyond just the sport itself. In fact, while he's an important mentor and player in the football league, Seth Greenleaf sees himself as a guest of the league.
"I'm sensitive to the fact that this league serves a purpose for these guys, and I never want to lose sight of that," Greenleaf says. "If this were my straight friends and me, the winning would be more important, the intensity would be higher, the violence would be higher—and I like all that, too, but I take into account that this is some people's first experience, and I want them to have good experiences. There are shifted priorities in this league, and I want to respect that."
In the circle: Tal Halcohen—The straight guy everyone wants to sleep with
Alon Hacohen has found a permanent home in the NYGFL, rumors, finger-pointing, and all. "This is by far the best league I've ever been a part of," he says, "and I'd never dream of leaving it just because I play with gay men. Unless they kick me out."