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See Dick Pay Jane: Chaste Dating for Cash

Recession desperation produces a quaint throwback

On my walk home over the white blossoms that cover the sidewalk like confetti, I reflect on how, if this had been a "real" date with Carlos, I would have thought he was a nice guy, but that there was no chemistry. I didn't feel objectified; it was more like I was obligated to be friendly. In a pinch, I could even see doing it again as a slightly uncomfortable, but relatively painless, way to make some extra cash.

After I get home and take a closer look at the ticket, I realize something is crossed out with black ink. Tilting the ticket at a certain angle, I can make out a name underneath, and it's definitely not "Carlos." It turns out he had his secrets, too.

Cara, meanwhile, has found a full-time job at a nonprofit, and April is on unemployment again after a short-term government job. Both continue to "date" on weekends. Julie plans to work for the agency again upon her return to the States this summer. Though they've noticed a recent dip in business, which they attribute to the Craigslist Killer case, like the savvy entrepreneurs they are, the girls dream of expanding, hiring others, and taking the agency to other states.

I do wholesome things with my earnings. Following Cara's suggestion, I donate the money to a local nonprofit called Girls Educational & Mentoring Services, or GEMS, that works with teenage girls who have been a lot less fortunate about where to draw the line with regard to sex work. The little Coach purse, I send to my mom. As for Carlos, a week or so after our date, I send him a message telling him that I'm writing a story about the agency and our date and ask if there's anything he'd like to share about the experience and why he was drawn to it. His response was refreshingly candid: With his longtime girlfriend working in another country, he was feeling lonely and in need of some female company. "I was only looking for a companion, something platonic and temporary," he wrote. "Going out with somebody like you through Austen's Janes is just simple. No complications and no expectations." Just what the girls had in mind.

ebrady@villagevoice.com
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  • dating services nyc 11/09/2010 11:21:00 AM

    It seems to intersting to me dating for cash nice one man keep it up , use them for your own use, nothing can stop you from achieving whatever you deserve , just don't forget to get your prize money.

  • st, lucy 08/06/2009 5:29:00 PM

    Fresh, innovative and entrepreuneurial. I admire them for that.

  • gunner 06/20/2009 5:30:00 AM

    i sharply disagree with "lee", seeing no "exploitation" in this. no coercion is involved, the ladies are acting freely, the men understand, (or should) that there is a "no touching" rule. frankly wxcept for the cash it sounds like your average blind date where the woman gets dinner, a show and maybe a drink or two and the guy gets an evening's company. (though my last blind date turned into a 40+ year marriage, and counting.) the ladies seem to have found a way to earn money in hard times without resorting to crime and i see no fault with it.

  • bruisers 06/09/2009 4:31:00 AM

    Great piece. Best thing I've seen in the New York Press in a long time.

  • JD 06/02/2009 9:24:00 AM

    Come on now. This article was a little unfair to us guys don't you think? We're not all murderers, social inept, or fresh off the boat. I can see the use of this service in some situations. For instance, you need a date for a company function and all your female friends are busy that night. I did sort of wince when I read this statement by Professor Bernstein "Sixty dollars an hour is cheap for a college-educated, young, attractive white woman." And all this time I was thinking I couldn't afford one... sheesh

  • AM 05/31/2009 2:21:00 AM

    Out of curiosity, I checked out their website. It's too bad that they promote themselves as articulate and intelligent women, but the poor grammar and misspellings refute that. Besides that, interesting phenomenon.

  • Rob 05/29/2009 7:45:00 AM

    One person said it so true, you take these women out then they critizie you. These women are going down a slippery slope towards prostitution, they are not different, desperate times test your real character.

  • Dellos 05/29/2009 1:08:00 AM

    Thanks for bringing this to my attention it would be fun to hang out with a women and watch an old movie and eat popcorn. I am boring and a total loser my ineptitude and nervousness clauses me to become very clumsy around women and the few date I had end in very badly. As matter of public recorded I took my aunt to the prom. Since I am paying for it is like hiring a baby sitter and there would be o pressure to impress the women.

  • That Guy Paulie 05/28/2009 8:33:00 PM

    Another reason a guy has to be an idiot or a millionaire to live in NYC. Women who eyeball and make mental notes of every upscale manufactuerer of every single item you possess.

  • Your John 05/28/2009 3:35:00 AM

    I'm sure it didn't hurt that when you search for "Emily Brady" in Google images, you get the pornstar of the same name.

  • charlie 05/27/2009 9:33:00 PM

    Well put Lee! This is pathetic and disingenuous. Not only that but the article is written by such a jaded, single New-York-girl P.O.V, so the guy pays you to hang out, and yet you still have to criticize him? Shouldn't you at least go into this with a positive outlook? I mean you are getting paid. Also, you might want to look into getting a refund from your grad school, for "writing" as you call it.

  • Justin 05/27/2009 7:44:00 PM

    I seriously don't think that this job is more alienating or terrible than any other job (and may be significantly better if the event you're attending together is decently fun). I don't see how it's more spiritually draining than, say... mopping the flooded floor of men's bathrooms at a movie theatre for minimum wage (I did that once, and it kind of made me want to kill myself). It never ceases to astound me how people are willing to judge the hell out of a certain line of work without having an ounce of experience in it. It's very Puritan and fundamentalist, but I guess this IS America after all. Should I really be surprised? Perhaps not. But to say that pornography is a better choice than working for the Austen's Janes Agency betrays an reification of sex, sexuality, intimacy, and relationships that's so absurd that it's kind of like getting high and not seeing the forest for the trees, except you're tripping so fucking hard, you think you're surrounded by hot pink wildebeests. That being said, I have to wonder about guys who need to pay women to hang out with them. I have plenty of platonic female friends, both when I'm in a relationship and when I'm not. They're all fairly to very attractive. We chill fairly regularly. (Admittedly, many of them are girls I had the vague hots for until I realized they were A) taken B) not relationship material or C) a little crazy.) However, female friends have been harder to make after college, when you're not in constant social contact with people of the opposite sex outside of predetermined circumstances that have usually romantic implications. But why do these guys need to PAY to get women to hang out with them? Like what's going on in your social life? Okay, so your LDR girlfriend isn't around... don't you know anyone else? Weird.

  • John 05/27/2009 7:23:00 PM

    Perhaps I'm old fashioned, but a male companion would be more suitable for a baseball game and a female escort for a cultural event. There seems to be a business opportunity for cool hetero looking guys to hire themselves out as buddies for sporting events, beer drinking pub crawls, hanging out at OTB or other places that desirable women wouldn't be caught dead at.

  • Lee 05/27/2009 8:01:00 AM

    Three intelligent women with wit and savvy lowering their personal boundaries to be exploited with the plastic assurance that "most" of the men who desire their services are good guys with good intentions is self depraving at best. By merchandising the core of their relationship building life experience, these girls are aggregating the end goal of dating to serve a short term "financial" goal. Eventually (unless they are soulless) this counterfeit rom-com fantasy will do more emotional damage than is currently realized. They might as well strip or do porn, at least on its face, it is an honest, spiritually-disconnected financial pursuit.

 

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