Et Satan conduit le bal. Pray the Rosary for Hellzapoppin! The family that prays together stays together. And America has forgotten this wisdom.
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She left behind a baby boy, an estranged lover, and a custody case that would challenge progressive New York
Sporn met Leutner at a bar in March of 2010. She was wearing a business suit, sipping Lambrusco while she marked up a proxy statement. He sat down next to her. "You really shouldn't be doing your homework at the bar," he said.
The next night they went on their first date, to a jazz concert at Lincoln Center. He found her pretty, well read, and clever. She reached out and touched his thigh. "Are you real?" she asked.
For their fifth date, they flew to Africa. They tracked black rhinos in Namibia, saw giraffes, leopards, and elephants. At night, they curled up inside their tent and listened to the lions roar.
By December, Leutner had moved into Sporn's apartment on Riverside Drive in Manhattan. He called her "dollzy." She called him "boysee." They argued over the TV remote and split the chores. He managed to coax her from a vegan to a vegetarian diet. Once, he claims, she even agreed to try a steak.
During their first year together, they went to Italy. She took him home to Illinois to meet her parents and attend her high school and college reunions. With Brennan, now 12, in tow, they traveled to Disney World and took a fishing trip to Maine.
"In Sporn, LeAnn found someone who loved her, liked her, and who could put up with her mishigas," Flacks says.
Soon, the couple was talking about raising a family.
Leutner wanted two more children. She was approaching 40 and felt anxious about her age, so the couple started trying to conceive before they'd been dating a year. After a few unsuccessful months, hey turned to in vitro fertilization.
"We were very excited," Sporn would later write in court papers. "There was no one else who I would have wanted to start a family with and LeAnn felt the same way."
The doctor prescribed Leutner hormone injections to encourage her body to release more eggs. The process was "intense" and "emotional," Sporn wrote. Month after month, the doctor delivered bad news. Leutner grew more and more anxious. Time was her enemy. "LeAnn felt the weight of the world on her shoulders," Sporn wrote.
A number of studies indicate that rates of depression are significantly higher among infertile couples than those who can naturally conceive. The process of in vitro fertilization itself exacerbates psychological distress—especially if the embryos fail to take. In a 2012 study at Spalding University in Louisville, Kentucky, researchers found women who use assisted reproductive technology can develop post-traumatic stress disorder. Though her symptoms were well managed before she tried to get pregnant, Leutner's mental health risks were magnified.
Most doctors agree that taking antidepressants doesn't negatively affect a woman's fertility. Though the topic is controversial, a number of recent studies also show that, even during pregnancy, the drugs are relatively safe. Leutner stopped taking her Prozac anyway. Sporn begged her not to. At least wait until you get pregnant, he pleaded. She did not listen.
Frustrated and losing hope, Leutner tearfully considered using an egg donor. Sporn reassured her. He loved her so much, he told her; he wanted the baby to be biologically just like her. The couple picked out an anonymous sperm donor. Sporn insisted on using a fellow Jew. They tried a "split cycle," where the doctor mixed Sporn's sperm with the donor sperm. When that, too, failed, Leutner and Sporn tried again using only the donor sperm. The doctor implanted two embryos. The pregnancy test came back positive. They were going to have twins.
The two began nesting, picking out furniture for the nursery and shopping for tiny hats and shoes. Sporn put headphones on Leutner's swelling belly and played music for the babies. They hired a nanny and started talking about names. It should have been a happy time, but Leutner's mental health was quickly deteriorating.
A few weeks after the positive pregnancy test, Leutner started to bleed: She lost one of the babies. If only she had stayed in bed, she obsessed, it never would have happened. When the doctor told her the surviving child was a boy, she was disconsolate. They must immediately try for a girl, she told Sporn. She was anxious, compulsive, eating less and less. Sporn worried she was falling back into disordered behavior. He pushed her to see a psychiatrist.
The baby was born July 16, 2012. The couple named him Lincoln, after the country's 16th president. Sporn slipped into a doting parental daze almost as soon as he cut the squalling infant's umbilical cord. Lincoln was so alert and responsive. Already, Sporn told the pediatrician, the baby must be exhibiting signs of superior intelligence. The doctor indulged him. "I've been doing this 25 years and most parents think their baby is special," he says the doctor told him. "But this baby does seem special."
To announce the boy's birth, Leutner sent out an e-mail blast giving his name as "Lincoln Edward Amory Leutner-Sporn." But on the birth certificate, she left the line next to "father" blank.
"Enrolled Democrat, I trust?" Flacks joked when Leutner sent the baby's first photo.
"Oui, bien sûr!" Leutner replied. Yes, of course.
Et Satan conduit le bal. Pray the Rosary for Hellzapoppin! The family that prays together stays together. And America has forgotten this wisdom.
INJUSTICE!!! Poor Mr Sporn has been through too much. I hope someone official grows a brain and gives him custody of his child immediately. Ridiculous situation.
It is remarkable that the issue of legal rights for unmarried couples,
which are pretty much non-existent in this inherently morally conservative society, is only given attention by the press and raised to
international status when the couple is white and rich. I think of how
many low and middle-income people this issue affects but which we don't read
about in the Village Voice, which further raises the issue of class and race. I suppose it's not glamorous to read about such ordinary couples struggling to survive in an increasingly gentrified inner city and who don't have the opportunity to make love to the sound of roaring lions during an African safari or vacation in Italy.
Why didn't Leutner put Sporn down on the birth certificate as the father? She had every right to do that, and if she had, the child would never have wound up with social services. I just don't understand that aspect. She was a lawyer, she surely knew Sporn would not have custodial rights in the event of her death. Why did her sister refuse to even tell Sporn that Leutner had died, and then fight him for custody? Something just seems off.
she was in the midst of a serious mental health crisis, was dealing with possible postpartum depression, had attempted suicide at least twice - and Sporn left her in the hospital and the baby with a nanny, while he left the country. i know it's hard dealing with someone with mental health issues, but as a mental health professional none of this should have been surprising to him, and Leutner and the baby were his responsibility - if he was the intended father figure for the child.
It seems Sporn did very little to intervene in Leutner's downward spiral. The fact that she moved her and the baby to another residence right before her death speaks volumes. I think the correct decision was made.
@MissBobWiley I wholeheartedly agree. But then this level of selfishness and arrogance and cluelessness and shortsightedness is typical of the average New York overachiever. The Village Voice has an agenda in propogating the fact that 41% of women now having children out of wedlock is actually a good thing. No, no it's not. It messes kids minds up and creates ridiculous, completely avoidable situations like this. But then again, the Village Voice's agenda has always been to mock anyone who isn't a little red book toting, unthinking, pompous, arrogant atheist who knows everything but who is actually a fairly superficial annoying stereotype of a type of liberal who hasn't been around since the 1940s in the West Village. I think there may be some credence here to some people saying behind Leutner's back saying she treated her kid like a toy. I also am kind of suspicious about the bipolar levels of volunteerism, Type-A aggressiveness and a need to fill every waking minute with doing something without what seems like a moment's peace or reflection by Leutner to be exceptionally troubling. I also think that a neuroscientist and psychiatrist like Sporn should have seen this coming by wanting to get a woman like this pregnant. Something also seems off the way their courtship went down. There was a reason she didn't have custody of her first child, Sporn should have seen this as well as a big red flag. But love is blind, I guess...
new york law is so messed up that even if on birth certificate it would not necessarily secure his parental rights if not yet married and adoption not complete. the baby has Sporn's name - does the mother's intent prior to illness not matter crtically? They were clearly a couple- this is very troubling.
Leutner was not acting reasonably so hard to know and one would imagine sister not involve prior suddently wanted the baby as it was all that remained of her sister- maybe she feels guilty? There is something off about what the friend was doing getting her out of hospital and then leaving her alone while keeping baby with her on New Years eve. The boy will some day know his father at least fought hard for him before he was exiled. There are rumors the friend was going lawyer shopping to try to then get custody of baby herself- even though she was a complete stranger.
Note you indicate what is "possible" but were not there. If someone is living with mental illness it will eventually leave the person exhausted and needing a break in order to continue the battle. Psychiatrists will sometimes refuse to continue to see patients who will not work with them in a therapeutic alliance or will be overwhelmed by the stress of managing a self destructive patient who they only see once a week or so- so imagine having that stress 24/7.
But the larger issue is even if you assume that Sporn should not have used her hospitalization as a chance to go away and recover, is that enough to ignore the intent of the parties to have a child together? It sounds like punishment more than what is right and best for the boy.
Clearly the couple went to an IVF clinic and would have had to sign paperwork that would clearly indicate that despite using a sperm donor that the intended father accepts the child as his own and his heir. If the earlier IVF cycles described in the article had succeeded then Sporn would have been the biological father and he would have not had a problem keeping his son despite the moralizing of judges or the public about a situation they were not present for. In this case an IVF clinic would "bridge" this issue by having the parents sign contractual language that they are the parents regardless of the biological "work around" of a sperm donor (who in this case Sporn chose per article). How different would it be if the mother had used an egg donor? Would you then still think it is the courts role to then decide who should get the baby because obligatory need for assistance in reproduction. In other states with less archaic laws then NY Sporn would have been the parent without question. The courts if they are involved should be guided by the intent of the parents at the time the baby was conceived.
Otherwise it is left to the the whim of a judge and the judge in question has a reputation for having disturbing anger control problems. In this case the intent of the parents was clear: to have a child biologically related to both of them and they worked together to this end-- if this is well documented then the "State" should not be intruding on their lives. A judge making a decision that is not based on intent of the parties is then a decision based on nothing but what they feel like doing using only the vague principle of best interest of the child. This may be in violation of the due process clause of the constitution which protects against vague laws. If this had been about Sporn using embryos after the mother's death then the contract they signed would be binding but in this case because there is a baby the intent of the parents is not thought by this judge to be binding or even guiding for the judge- this is odd from a common sense level putting aside the law.
In this case the child has lost now both his mother and the only father he ever knew and at 1 years old that is relevant already in terms of his attachment. He then is sent to strangers only for the reason that the baby shares 25% heredity with him? The boy would have grown up with a father who is well educated, has resources to bring him up, and where the mother of the child clearly intended him to live. It also takes the child away from the father who is clearly very attached to him and has been fighting for him-- what is the advantage of doing so. We do not know from the article whether the sister who does not appear in the story till after Leutner dies has the intellectual, emotional, and financial resources to do the best by the child.
I hope Sporn appeals this unusual case. The problem of mental illness and the intent to have the child biologically related to both parties should be of interest to the appeals court I would hope. More importantly, NY law should be fixed so this does not happen but given how messed up beyond all repair the NY legislature is this may not happen but lets hope
@richardwad2u1 Actually, if you read the article you will see that Leutner was supposed to be hospitalised at the time, which is exactly where someone who makes multiple attempts on their life should be.
What's unfortunate is that Leutner and her enabler friend, Myra DiDonato, managed to convince the hospital that Leutner was well enough to be discharged when she clearly was not. Unless you mange to have someone declared mentally incompetent, it's very hard to force anyone to do anything they don't want to, so Sporn wasn't exactly in a position to force Leutner to do anything with regards to treatment for her declining mental state.
And, speaking as a long time sufferer of mental illness, we can be remarkably stubborn when we decide we want to self destruct.
Saying Leutner's behaviour shortly before her suicide "speaks volumes" is flawed, because her actions were those of someone in the grips of severe mental illness. You do see the problem with giving her actions a particular significance, right? For all we know she wanted to leave because Sporn was trying to push her into treatment... there's plenty of scenarios that can be hypothesised here and I think that's really important to keep in mind.
what is most relevant and made clear is the consequences of mental illness on decision making. Someone with mental illness can decide to move or be homeless or to isolate from their friends and family- this only speaks volumes regarding the illness rather than being a moral judgment on others involved. In any event people with mental illness have to accept intervention and sadly often do not. Sad that you are so judgmental. Losing a child on top of managing mental illness and losing ones partner seems a bit much
@skram08 This is a sad example of what happens when mental illness meets up with parenthood. Even if a child is not biologically related to either parent he will grow up with at least one who is mentally ill. Whatever good qualities and intentions Leutner may have had, she wasn't clear enough in her mind to make the right decision.
The only place my genes are going is into my grave.
@23RSD, um, genius, the fact that he wanted to co-parent with someone he knew was mentally ill for quite some time - and put her through all that this entailed - brings his judgement into question quite a bit...perhaps not for you but for most functional, thinking individuals.
@10Merc @richardwad2u1 @23RSD And when satanic possession slowly starts, it is not recognized until after death. Pray the Rosary. Or remain defenseless. Your choice.