When Is Too Soon To Say "I Love You"?
"I love you" are the three most glorious words in the English language--aside from "I'll comp you"--but if they're said too soon or too often, they have the weird reverse impact of driving people far, far away.
I once had a boyfriend who started saying "I love you" after we'd know each other for two whole weeks! I found it a little bizarre, but I always replied "I love you too," seeing as you have no choice! (This kind of thing really puts perfectly well meaning people in a bind.) Eventually, I realized he simply wanted a life partner and was trying to accelerate our bond rather than let it develop organically. Today, neither of us loves the other--a LOT.
So when is the right time to say "I love you"? Does it vary from case to case? Or is there a universal time frame--like, say, after six months? I'll love you for answering.
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