At the last several sex-positive events I've attended, the most common question people have asked me hasn't been one of the two usual suspects: "Doesn't anal sex hurt?" and "What about the mess?" In fact, it has nothing to do with backdoor penetration at all. It goes something like this: "I'm here at this cool conference-party-meeting, in a sexually charged environment, and I don't know how to meet people or hook up." For whatever reason, I've been nearly bombarded by scared singles, shy wallflowers, and socially challenged perverts needing advice. I've tried to reassure them with a fact I know to be true: Even the strangest, most awkward, fashion-unconscious folks among us get plenty of action—trust me, I've seen it with my own eyes—so you can too. But lately, I've realized that it's time to... More >>>