Online Dating

  • Voice Choices

    August 20, 2014


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  • Blogs

    July 2, 2014

    Video: Pride Marchers Tell Us Their Grindr Horror (and Love) Stories

    OO.ready(function() { OO.Player.create('ooyalaplayer', 'xrN21ubjoEg5Ypd8EIB6C4h5fKCmMKtR'); });Please enable Javascript to watch this video "On our first date, she brought me a cat. A four-year-old cat from a shelter that was mean." "Oh, this is what you look like?" "One of my best friend's exes ... More >>

  • Blogs

    November 4, 2013

    Where to Go on Your Online First Date (By Site!)

    Online first dates are stressful enough--will everyone know we've never met? What if his/her photos lied?--but resign to them in this city, and you've got the added challenge of picking a perfect spot for a rendezvous from thousands of potential locations. So we present you with our handy guide, for ... More >>

  • Blogs

    August 2, 2013

    Dispatches from Craigslist: This Guy's Too Busy to Run His Own Online Dating Profile

    Hi, My name is Raillan. I saw your ad on Craigslist about finding someone to managing your online dating profile. I'm writing because I think I'm the one for the job.

  • Blogs

    May 23, 2013

    Rapper Tim Dog May Have Faked His Death

    Back in February, we brought you the unfortunate news that famed early '90s rapper Timothy "Tim Dog" Blair died due to a diabetic seizure at the age of 46. On a much lighter note, it looks now like that might not be true.

  • Blogs

    February 18, 2013

    eHarmony Owner: Gay Marriage Damaged My Company

    eHarmony was the place where straight people could find love (or at least a blow job), until the New Jersey Attorney General ruled that they had to also service homosexuals. But owner Neil Clark Warren isn't happy about that development at all.

  • Voice Choices

    January 30, 2013


    A million reasons why 
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  • Blogs

    July 25, 2012

    Does Dan Savage Think It's OK To Laugh During Sex?

    This week in Savage Love, which you can check out here, Dan answers a couple of questions -- from the existential crisis of a straight woman who wants to see a man in lady panties to condom safety in gay threesomes. It's all interesting stuff, but the story of the woman with the crossdressing-partn ... More >>

  • Blogs

    July 6, 2012

    Halloumi Cheese: Sweet, Savory, and Pac-Man Shaped

    [See More Taste Test: 5 Boozy Sweets Meant to Start a Buzz in New York | Porchetta's Lebanese Chicken Sandwich | Spring Garden: New Contender for Brooklyn's Best Dim Sum] If Halloumi was single and it had an online dating profile, it would probably say, "Hi, I'm a cheese from Cyprus. My friends des ... More >>

  • Blogs

    May 16, 2012

    The Hideous Lies In Dating Site Profiles: Here's Your Handy Guide

    Everyone--I mean everyone--lies on, OKCupid, Grindr, Manhunt, eHarmony, and every other hookup site/app in tarnation. The profiles read more like romance novels than confessionals, filled with exaggerations, evasions, wishful thinking, and downright doctoring of evidence. With every word ... More >>

  • Voice Choices

    January 11, 2012
  • Blogs

    January 5, 2012

    Scientists Determine that People on eHarmony Want to Get Married

    ​How do you date successfully? Some might say it's only when you stop dating, a/k/a, find someone and settle down, or whatever people do. Others might say that it's as simple as going on a good date, or learning something from the experience, even if it's bad. Free-living caddish types and tho ... More >>

  • Blogs

    January 4, 2012

    The Best (and Worst) Days for Online Dating in NYC in 2011, According to Data From OkCupid

    We were wondering: Could there be truth to the idea that, say, after a natural disaster, or on a long holiday weekend, there might be a stronger inclination to turn to the sex of your choosing and merge, or try to find someone with whom to merge, or at least get some dinner or something? And how did ... More >>

  • Blogs

    December 13, 2011

    Woman Who Bragged About Using to Get Guys to Buy Her Dinner Brags Some More

    video platformvideo managementvideo solutionsvideo playerRemember Jessica Sporty? She is the enterprising Murray Hill twentysomething written about in November by Business Insider, which first published her name, after which it was picked up by various media outlets (us included); then changed it to ... More >>

  • Blogs

    November 29, 2011

    Single Lady Brags About Using to Get Guys to Buy Her Dinner

    "Make dinner happen."​I wasn't going to write about this, but it started making me madder and madder, so here I am. Business Insider today writes of a woman named Jessica Sporty, who, at 23, was simply too poor on her $45K salary to take care of her $1,475 a month (ahem -- Murray Hill) apartme ... More >>

  • Blogs

    September 1, 2011

    n 1 Personals Is Starting to Attract the Inevitable Creeps [Update: The Interns Speak!]

    ​It happens with any online dating site. Any social network, even. After a while, the filters get less and less stringent and the real creepy dudes start leaking in and next thing you know, you're MySpace. Sad young literary magazine n 1's new personals site, only a few days old, is already at ... More >>

  • Blogs

    August 19, 2011

    How Is New York Not in the '10 Most Promiscuous Cities' List?

    Portland, the most promiscuous city in America. ​Dating site OkCupid, which comes out with interesting sex and dating data every now and then, has dropped some new knowledge on us: a list of the 10 most promiscuous cities in the U.S. The metric is based on how many OkCupid users' profiles sai ... More >>

  • Blogs

    July 14, 2011

    StreetMatching.Com Is an Online Dating Site for All Those Missed Connections

    There's a dating site for this.​It's the year 2011 and there are waaaaay more options for online dating than Enterprising people all over the world are creating business plans for their particular dating schemes (HowAboutWeOnlyDate BeautifulPeopleWithDogsWhoKnit), and the latest, wh ... More >>

  • Blogs

    July 11, 2011

    The People You Date Are the People You Can Date, Science Says

    Spoiler: This film has no basis in science.​Good news for people who date people! Generally, the people you want to date are people who might want to date you, people of the same "desirability" and/or "hotness"! Does this, perhaps, seem sort of untrue based on your recent dating history? Well, ... More >>

  • Blogs

    July 8, 2011

    Michele Bachmann's Husband Gets Honorary Gaydar Award

    ​As Marcus Bachmann rants against gays while flapping his wrists around, he's been popping up on so many gay sites and gaydar alerts that (a popular dating site) has offered him a lifetime free membership! Bachmann hasn't responded to the generous offer yet, but I'm sure he'll even ... More >>

  • Blogs

    June 30, 2011

    DateMySchool Expands To 204 More Campuses

    ​Last November, two Columbia students launched DateMySchool, an online dating service exclusively for college students. Columbia University Business School students Balazs Alexa, 28, and Jean Meyer, 29, came up with the idea for the site when they were discussing the "lack of dateable women" i ... More >>

  • Blogs

    June 21, 2011

    The East Village Is NYC's Most Popular 'Date Spot'

    ​HowAboutWe, the online dating site based on what you want to do -- how about we wake up early and blog together? -- has pulled together information from the more than 100,000 dates posted on its site to determine the neighborhoods New Yorkers most frequently pick as date spots (at least, acco ... More >>

  • Blogs

    June 14, 2011

    New Yorkers Don't Spend Enough On Dates; Reddit Responds

    ​The dating website WhatsYourPrice recently reported that New York City men spend only $145 on average for a first date. This puts us in 11th place as big spenders, behind D.C., Dallas, Seattle, Toronto, and Denver. While the Post took the story seriously and chastised New Yorkers for being "c ... More >>

  • Blogs

    June 3, 2011

    You Are More Likely to Get Laid on a Wednesday

    ​In a very important undertaking, Christian Rudder of OkCupid and Nate Silver met up to talk about various dating -- okay, let's call it what it is -- sex statistics, because everyone loves statistics that help them have sex. OkCupid being OkCupid, they're very good at figuring out these datin ... More >>

  • Blogs

    May 24, 2011

    'Happy Guys' Are Less Sexually Attractive to Women, Says Science

    ​According to science -- it's always according to science -- women are significantly less sexually attracted to "happy guys" than they are to men who swagger, brood, or are generally bad news. This is unfortunate, as happy guys seem way more fun to hang out with than swaggering broodsters with ... More >>

  • Blogs

    May 21, 2011

    New Dating Opportunity For Reclusive Weirdos!

    ​The world of online dating is full of misleading profiles. It's a huge cliche, really. Remember what happened last week with the OkCupid lonelyhearts 4chan tried to prank? Anyway, if you can't beat 'em, join 'em. A new dating website called "Cloud Girlfriend" casts off any pretense of realism ... More >>

  • Blogs

    May 14, 2011

    4Chan "Forever Alone" OkCupid Prank Didn't Go Exactly As Planned

    ​Yesterday, the lonely dudes of 4chan enacted their plan to prank the lonely dudes of OkCupid. The trolls had set up fake OkCupid accounts depicting cute single women, with which they'd attempted to lure "forever alone" guys on the dating site to Times Square, where they would all collectively ... More >>

  • Blogs

    May 12, 2011

    4chan Pranking Lonely Men on OkCupid, Luring Them to Times Square

    ​The wild Internet message board 4chan, known for originating almost all memes and spawning the hacker/activist collective Anonymous, is plotting a prank on some unfortunately lonely fellows using OkCupid. The point, if you could call it that, is to create an "involuntary flash mob," in which ... More >>

  • Blogs

    April 19, 2011

    Twitter Users More Likely to Masturbate, Break Up Sooner

    ​OkTrends, OkCupid's dating research site, is a font of information about dating habits. Based on data gleaned from the profile information of its 7 million users, the site has told us what white people like, what Julian Assange likes, and given us insight into the mathematics of beauty. Now t ... More >>

  • Blogs

    April 17, 2011

    There Is an Ayn Rand Dating Site

    So, want to get a drink sometime? ​Some people are really, really into Ayn Rand. You've seen them. There are hordes of self-described Objectivists, hacking their way through Atlas Shrugged or The Fountainhead on the subway. Now those people have the Atlasphere, a dating website just for them.

  • Blogs

    April 11, 2011

    Winklevii Row Out of Court Losers; Zuckerberg Wins Again

    ​It's a sad day for millionaire identical twin Olympians everywhere: Forbes reports a federal appeals court has ordered Cameron and Tyler Winklevoss to accept their $65 million settlement with Facebook. That means no more suing Mark Zuckerberg. This is the part of the post where we are legally ... More >>

  • Film

    April 6, 2011
  • Blogs

    April 5, 2011

    How New Yorkers Describe Themselves in Their Online Dating Profiles

    The "shy" map.​Ooh, infographics! Dating infographics! According to these enlightening maps by R. Luke DuBois, which appear today on Fast Company's Co.Design blog, America is quite diverse with regard to how we like to describe ourselves on our online dating profiles. In certain places (like W ... More >>

  • Columns

    July 13, 2010
  • Blogs

    February 12, 2009

    Times: Recession Leads to More Downscale Dating

    The Times is getting on the recession-positive bandwagon we noted yesterday. They say that since the economy went down, more Americans have, too. "Online and offline matchmakers are reporting that dating interest is up, way up," the paper says. Reporter Abby Ellin attributes increased activity at Ma ... More >>

  • Blogs

    November 19, 2008

    eHarmony Settles, Will Enable Same-Sex Match-Ups

    In another bit of judicial activism that should re-invigorate conservative charges of gay-on-straight violence, a Jersey lawsuit in which a gay man charged that eHarmony had discriminated against him by not offering same-sex matching has been settled, and eHarmony will begin offering "male seeking m ... More >>