In the good old days, gays would have wild, wanton sex upon first meeting and if the connection grew into some kind of relationship, that was probably OK.
But new school gays (excluding the Manhunt ones) want to get to know each other first and then get sexual.
They want to be like straight people, who for years wined and dined each other and actually conversed in depth before sexplay became a huge factor.
Today’s gays actually date!
But ironically, now that the gays have caught up with the getting-to-know-you routine, the straights want to be like old-school gays and have sex first!