This Sunday morning Gawker points us to a sordid story in the wedding section of the New York Times. It turns out that rich white people leave their spouses. And then they talk about it to the Paper of Record! She was a “glamorous” anchor at WNBC; he was the president of media sales at Time Warner and a “triathlete.” They both had children at the same Upper West Side pre-kindergarten. It’s “part ‘Brady Bunch’ and part ‘The Scarlet Letter,'” the Times tells us. They say they never cheated: “I did a terrible thing as honorably as I could,” said the man who left his wife and three children. THEN HE TOLD THE MOST FAMOUS NEWSPAPER ALL ABOUT IT SO WHEN HIS KIDS GROW UP THEY CAN GOOGLE HIS NAME AND SLAM THE DOOR OF THEIR ROOMS AND SIDE WITH THEIR MOTHER.
Here’s the heart of the tale:
The connection was immediate, but platonic. In fact, as they became friends so did their spouses. There were dinners, Christmas parties and even family vacations together.
So Ms. Riddell was surprised to find herself eagerly looking for Mr. Partilla at school events — and missing him when he wasn’t there. “I didn’t admit to anyone how I felt,” she said. “To even think about it was disruptive and disloyal.”
What she didn’t know was that he was experiencing similar emotions. “First I tried to deny it,” Mr. Partilla said. “Then I tried to ignore it.”
Like in high school, it eventually came to a head:
In May 2008, Mr. Partilla invited her for a drink at O’Connell’s, a neighborhood bar. She said she knew something was up, because they had never met on their own before.
“I’ve fallen in love with you,” he recalled saying to her. She jumped up, knocking a glass of beer into his lap, and rushed out of the bar. Five minutes later, he said, she returned and told him, “I feel exactly the same way.” Then she left again.
Why would you sign up for this? Why would you apply to air your family business? WHY ARE YOU SO DAMN PROUD OF YOURSELVES?
“He said, ‘Remind me every day that the kids will be O.K.,’ ” Ms. Riddell recalled. “I would say the kids are going to be great, and we’ll spend the rest of our lives making it so.”
But probably not! Therapy is expensive. Moreover, it’s not just the five (!) children; it’s both the cuckold and the slighted wife, plus the parents, siblings and friends of all of the adults involved! Oh, their story is “fodder for neighborhood gossip?” You don’t fucking say. The egomania and bubble of privilege here is out of control.
“I will always feel terribly about the pain I caused my ex-husband,” said the woman. “It was not what I ever would have wished on him.” Then why make him relive it all? In ink! With photos!! It seems like someone wants a movie deal. (I’d watch.)
This article from the Village Voice Archive was posted on December 19, 2010