How to Lose a Stranger at a Club or Party


You’re talking to a new person at a bar or party, and you’re ready to move on without hurting their feelings.

What do you do?

An insightful new book called Steven Petrow‘s Complete Gay & Lesbian Manners for Every Occasion mentions two popular excuses:

“I’ve got to use the restroom. I’ll be right back.” (Then disappear faster than a Hollywood relationship.)

And “I need another cocktail. I’ll be right back.” (And vanish quicker than an old woman’s Oscar chances for Best Actress.)

But Petrow urges that you actually shouldn’t use those because they’re way too shady!

“Instead,” he writes, sensibly, “try to be straightforward, which is not necessarily the same as being honest.”

He suggests something like, “I’ve really enjoyed talking with you, but I’m going to walk around a bit.”

Or “I don’t want to take up too much of your time. It’s been nice sharing a drink with you.”

Those are perfectly lovely alibis, but I’ll stick with my usual:

“Excuse me, but I’m going to look around and see if I can find something better. It’s almost closing time.”