I wasn’t going to write about this, but it started making me madder and madder, so here I am. Business Insider today writes of a woman named Jessica Sporty, who, at 23, was simply too poor on her $45K salary to take care of her $1,475 a month (ahem — Murray Hill) apartment and also her extra $500 or $1000 in credit card bills, so, she took to Internet dating on Match.com to essentially get dudes to buy her dinner and keep her out of debt.
One million sighs. O.K., for the sake of the argument, let’s just say this story is for real; that Sporty does not have some angle in publicizing it (like a book deal? A dating guide, mayhaps? A hilarious new rom-com?); and that we’re going to give her some slight benefit of the doubt. New York is expensive, and Match.com is not, after all, known for its overall high caliber wonderful, charitable, always honest people. Not to specifically call out Match.com — the INTERNET, in fact, is not known for always being the most moral playground, and yet, ironically, is known for railing on anyone who fails to meet our very high standards. And dating, in fact, is not known as a situation in which everyone behaves perfectly and wonderfully.
But a comment like this is just disgusting:
“Before I barely had enough money to pay for food,” said Sporty. “After using Match.com I found I wasn’t going into debt anymore.”
Yeah, New York is expensive. Yeah, you have high standards and you want to, like, buy shoes and go out and have fun. Yeah, this is a hilarious little tale to share with your girlfriends, the way you would share tales of bad, hilarious dates. Men use women far more than women use men, that’s the stereotype, right? And bankers “were thrilled to woo her with extraordinary restaurants like the underground taqueria La Esquina and a Japanese restaurant, Megu, in Tribeca. One guy even took her to a champagne bar and purchased a $200 bottle.”
Ha ha. What a gas. Further, what an economic windfall:
Sporty went from easily spending $500 a month on dinners alone to having someone else dole out an average of $60-plus per night. She also stopped eating lunch and opted for a light breakfast to save even more.
Her roommates joined in, and, there were spreadsheets made, and well, now we have a trend story. Women who use men to feed them. How progressive. During the “experiment” the ladies “soon learned how prevalent the online dating scene had become in New York City.”
Sporty eventually gave up on the game and according to the story, has a boyfriend. But the problem with this is not with one girl, or even with a girl and her roommates. It’s that there are actually people in New York City who do want to find each other and form some semblance of a good, honest, loving relationship. And people like Sporty make it that much harder for any of them — any of us — to trust each other. It’s hard enough out there; we don’t need this sort of crap that makes everyone suspicious and jaded and fraught with doubts and indecision. God, please say we’re not this awful.
Can this be a lesson for good, somehow?
Update: Business Insider has retracted this woman’s name and photo and is now calling her “Minerva McGonagall.” They’ve also killed comments on the post, because “people were taking it waaaay too seriously,” which makes us wonder why we are reading Business Insider at all. After all, they’re the ones who brought this to our attention in the first place.
This Young Woman Scored $1,200 A Month In Fancy Dinners On Match.com [Business Insider]