Learn them. Heed them. And don’t do them yourself!
These are according to Dr. Jacqueline Del Rosario, a marriage coach who’s very faithful about giving advice:
1. Sudden changes in schedule or chronically canceling plans
For example, you and your mate routinely have dinner every Thursday night at your favorite restaurant, but lately your partner has been canceling and coming up with a number of different excuses.
2. Starts fights and makes accusatory statements more often
This also might include suddenly accusing you of cheating. This could be a guilty conscience at play. A quick anger trigger, getting easily exasperated, and “picking fights” more frequently are other classic clues something is amiss, as these actions create distance for freedom to come and go as they please. It also provides a backdrop for an actual breakup to gain permanent freedom from the relationship.
3. Being emotionally withdrawn
It’s never a good sign when it takes effort to make even basic conversation with your mate, and also when your partner no longer asks for more in-depth details about things going on in your life–career, family, friends, hobbies and otherwise. This broad-sweeping disinterest can speak volumes.
4. Constant texting or using other virtual modalities
You notice your mate is constantly on, or checking, the phone or computer, at all hours of the day and night. You may also have discovered your mate has joined new social networks without telling you.
5. Being secretive with the phone
Every time the phone rings your companion goes to another room to take the call. Or you notice the immediate deleting of emails and text messages and keeping the phone face down at all times.
6. Changing passcodes
Your mate frequently changes telephone, email, and social networking site login information.
7. Constantly working late
Your mate is constantly coming home late and blames it on their work schedule–even when it is not the busy season. The same would hold true for a higher volume of business trips.
8. Changes in sexual patterns and/or alertness
You and your mate used to have sex 3 to 4 times per week but lately, your partner seems disinterested and now you have sex only once a week or less. Or, your mate asks you to try new positions or “toys,” even knowing you may not be comfortable with it.
9. Immediate shower upon arriving home, especially when it was not routine before
Upon returning home, your mate immediately runs to the shower before greeting you in an effort to wash away any evidence.
10. Changing underwear
You notice your mate has been wearing new and sexier under garments. Or, you find your mate’s under garments in the garbage.
I can add one more:
You notice they’re wearing someone else’s under garments.