Guys Who Like Fat Chicks

Guys Who Like Fat Chicks
Sam Zide
Dan Weiss and his girlfriend, photographed for the Voice in April 2011

Dan Weiss is 26, stands five-foot-six, weighs about 130 pounds, and has a thin chinstrap beard outlining his jaw—without the scruff, he looks 12. This Tuesday afternoon in March is the first time we’ve ever met, even though he’s a freelance music writer and we’ve been e-mailing each other professionally for years.

I first took an interest in him in September 2009, when he reviewed a live show of the Coathangers, a scrappy all-female grrrl-wave four-piece from Atlanta. In a note that was apropos of nothing really, he mentioned that he had taken out a description of the women in the band as “super-cute,” because, he said, he didn’t want anyone to think he was into “skinny girls.”

His Facebook profile filled in some of the blanks. He wore black-rimmed glasses and uniformly tight band T-shirts. He had shaggy black hair that fell in wiry squiggles. He played guitar and studied English at William Paterson University. There were snapshots of him posed with a beautiful young woman who appeared to be more than twice his size, wearing a French-maid Halloween costume. And there was a link to Ask a Guy Who Likes Fat Chicks, an unsigned advice-column blog “for your plumper-related stumpers.”

Entries happily, ravenously, robustly referenced double bellies, back rolls, and “big old ham thighs.” Feminine body shapes were compared to pears, apples, and one calabash squash; their weights spanned from 180 pounds to over 500. “Big Fat Sexy Kitty,” a young woman who described herself as five feet tall and 260 pounds, wrote in: “I want fat sex. I want my jiggly bits rubbed and squished and fondled sexually.”

In person at the East Village's Cafe Orlin, Dan explains that, yes, he likes round bellies. He likes double chins. He likes breasts the size of his head. He loves flabby biceps. “Fat upper arms are awesome. I would almost say I’m an arms guy,” he says, not by any means whispering. “I didn’t know that they would be that soft. I, like, fell asleep on a girl’s arm once. I was like, ‘Wow.’ ”

The blog Ask a Guy Who Likes Fat Chicks began on a whim, with Dan posting during his border-crossing bus sojourns to visit his long-distance girlfriend of two years, the smoky-eyed French maid from Toronto. The phrase “Fat Chicks” was meant to be a reversal of the college-humor slogan “No Fat Chicks.” And in the online world of Facebook groups and BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) messageboards that Dan inhabits, “fat” is preferable to “overweight,” which implies a standard, or “hefty,” which belongs to the trash bag, or “heavy,” which sounds like furniture. And “Fat Admirer” is the most frequent shorthand for straight men who prefer fat partners—the better-known term “Chubby Chaser” has become associated with the gay community.

Too lazy to consider himself an activist, but cocky enough to be the mouthy weakling “who would be getting my neck rung by the bully and still saying shit,” Dan is ego-driven enough to envision a greater purpose. “Society sucks, and society says you need male validation. If you’re trying to say fat is attractive, as a lot of women out there are, it helps to find legitimate people who find this attractive.” Or, as he put it more bluntly on his Facebook page, after contributing two pro-fat pieces to lady blog The Hairpin, “I write about my preference for fat women in hopes that other men who share my preference will make themselves known so they’ll stop being little ballsacks and let the millions of fat women in this country find them.”

In other words, Guys Who Like Fat Chicks are not make-believe. “We’re out there.”

Dear Askaguywholikesfatchicks: Why do you like fat chicks? —Sincerely, A Fat Chick
I’m so glad you asked. But the answer is: I don’t know. It’s the same I-don’t-know that pubescent boys will tell you after waking up strangely soaked from a night of dreaming about—I don’t know, Ashley Tisdale. The real question is, why are so many Fat Admirers in denial? I can’t tell you how many guys (or gals) there are like me, and a good portion of them being in the closet makes the numbers even fuzzier. Over half the U.S. is considered—DUN DUN DUN—“overweight.” Someone’s fucking all the fatties.* Be a sport and let them know.
*Contrary to popular belief, it’s not me.
[January 7, 2009]

Once upon a time, if a young man wanted to see a fat girl naked, he actually had to woo her. Playboy and Penthouse didn’t publish stretch-mark-mapped centerfolds. BBW nude-model paysites like PlumpPrincess.com and BigCuties.com did not exist. Dan didn’t have that problem. “An early memory was having Entertainment Weekly, cutting out pictures of Anna Nicole Smith in the Guess ads, and just studying her boobs.” But unlike his Fat-Appreciating forebears, he had the Internet. “I was looking for bigger and bigger boobs online, and when you looked at bigger and bigger boobs, you wound up finding bigger girls. And I was like, ‘Oh, wait. I like all of this.’ ”

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bbwsingles
bbwsingles

Not every guy in the world likes women to be stick figures. Not every guy in the world want his woman to be all skin and bones. There are men who happen to like your softness and curves, just like I like your attitude, and your style. I like the way you for me. [ Google BBWLover . org] and you will find more men who love BBW.


bbwsingles
bbwsingles

Not every guy in the world likes women to be stick figures. Not every guy in the world want his woman to be all skin and bones. There are men who happen to like your softness and curves, just like I like your attitude, and your style. I like the way you for me.


ertgh
ertgh

Bitch probably paid the guy in that photo. lol

shell.l.mockett
shell.l.mockett

I love big men,so sexy to grab hold of something soft.I am my self a large woman,would really like some large sexy male to cuddle up against.

kduprey111072
kduprey111072

Hi im bbw im looking for my dream man . I want a nice guy . Im kind friendly sweet i just been looking and looking for him . Im 40 years old . Just looking for my man . :)

clintonrieckhoff
clintonrieckhoff

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Ayan
Ayan

i love white chubby girls with thick thighs  and always dream to meet,is there some chubby girl? please write me i will be glad 2 meet

Ayan
Ayan

i love white chubby girls with thick thighs  and always dream to meet,is there some chubby girl? please write me i will be glad 2 meet

horribilis
horribilis

I've known about this for a while and though it's an interesting change from men and boys who are fixated on thin women, "fat chicks" and "thin chicks" are not actual people.  How about being into Susan or Tanisha or Madeline or whoever, because she is smart and sweet and easy to get along with?  Are there women and girls who are only interested in "thin guys" or "fat guys" or is that strictly a male phenomenon?   Objectifying people is no way to encourage healthy relationships or dismantle the ever-present rape culture we live in.

srsladd
srsladd

Wow this is awesome, I am a bbw and this new found world has boosted my spirit. I have always loved me and this just takes my love for me into a different realm.

srsladd
srsladd

Wow this is awesome, I am a bbw and this new found world has boosted my spirit. I have always loved me and this just takes my love for me into a different realm.

rosebud_101170
rosebud_101170

Wow I never knew anything like this existed... 

princedanladi
princedanladi

I'M LOOKING FOR A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP I'M LOOKING FOR A HONEST Big FAT WOMAN IF U'RE INTERESTED add me or inbox me i'm honest and serious, you can also add me on skype as de.governor01 or friend me on fb

BBW40
BBW40

Fabulous web site I have just found of a classy fat lady think I'm in love!  

 

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BigGirlsRun2
BigGirlsRun2

Not all fat women have low self-esteem and have health problems. I'm 5'3", 205 lbs and I run 4x week and do yoga 3x. Yes, I'm fat and I'm a walking contradiction to what health scientists have researched. Matter of fact, I should be dead b/c of my BMI, but I'm not. I exercise, I eat, I date, I don't hate myself, and I really think one can be big and healthy. Big people shouldn't have to feel like they need to lose weight before they start a new exercise or start dating or just to start something different. Do it now! B/c you only have one life.  I'll prove it to you, check out my running/health blog, www.BigGirlsRun2.com 

 

We all have different dating preferences and it's a good thing. If we all liked the same thing then we would be fighting over the same thing all the time. Fat can be beautiful and fat can be healthy. And, liking and dating fat people are not a fetish, it's a preference. 

 

Swingking_1
Swingking_1

Guys who like fat chicks have a sick fantasy of breaking into the zoo and raping the hippos. That is the only reason they like fat women. Celulite is disgusting. Rolls, double chin/neck, jello arms, stretch marks ugh i'm getting sick. FAt women are disgusting

Skele1zee
Skele1zee

fat girls work the magic than skinny girls and nothing is better the a girl wife more meat on the bone.i live it.

Farooq Wani
Farooq Wani

most of the people think that fat girls are ard or every body hate these girls, but as a human being we should not think about these kinds of things they are also part of our soceity we should not ignore their sentments neither we have the right to play their emotions, as a media person i like fat girls and i looking a good fat girl which is beatiful this message i put for those girls who is interesting me i was just 15 when i impress very much with fat girls but sometimes i hesitate to say any body that i am interested with fat girls. with best regards, country india state jammu and kashmir cell : 09596453647

Michael Scott Peterson
Michael Scott Peterson

I don't know about most but my reason for liking fat women has nothing to do with any misplace emotions, fears or fetishes. I've had a thing for them since I was younger, I just loved being with someone I can hold on to, someone that doesn't mind me hugging them. Its nothing personal to smaller women I just like what I like. Most of the women I've dated in my life were fat, we had great relationships, interesting conversations, and well our sex life well lets put it like this, things I've done with my girlfriend most dude who have petite girlfriends wish they could do with their chick. People just need to get over the fact that no matter what other people think its what the person whose dating said person whether their a Fat man or a woman. Bottom line is its not your relationship! Who arre you to judge?

Kayleen Bell
Kayleen Bell

If guys like big girls, good. If they don't, good for them too. Anything someone is attracted to shouldn't be looked down upon. What really annoys me is when people talk shit about bigger people though.. Are you perfect? Perfect personality, perfect looks, and have never done anything wrong in your entire life? If so, THEN you can say something, but seeing as how no one alive has ever been perfect, you just need to stfu. Do you criticize people when they have a different sexuality or a different race? Why is it acceptable to make fun of someone for their weight, but not those things.. No one should judge anyone for those types of things. If you find a fat girl that is lazy then dislike that about them, but just know that you'll find just as many lazy skinny girls too. I don't understand how people can ruthlessly judge someone that they don't even know, based on what they look like. If you think someone is unattractive, good for you, don't look, no one is forcing you to and their life does NOT concern you in any possible way. Mind your own business and live your OWN life instead of pointing out what you see as a flaw in someone else. & it doesn't matter if you think they're hideous.. maybe they feel the same way about you. People just need to grow up.

Trying to clean up FB
Trying to clean up FB

Some of these BBW pages on FB are disturbing as they tend to be soft porn which is not allowed per company policy; yet that doesn't deter these women to pose as they do as I guess they need total validation from strangers that they are sexy and desirable. But it is odd that most men from other countries are the ones who seem to think so. I am just appalled as to what they post as this are no "age restrictions" or adult pages on this site, and youngsters could easily find them as their pages/groups are open. I wonder about their morals and integrity...as I would others who have done this as well, but now this is almost like a cult. But then, too, are are those whose pages lead to their porn site addy's right which is illegal as well. To be fat/obese and like yourself is one thing; but to show it as they do, that is for sites other than FB. And most claim they are healthy....but wait until they are 50+ and then come back and tell us that as obesity DOES leads to health problems that cost us taxpayers and health companies money, plain and simple and there is nothing sexy about that.

Neene_80
Neene_80

I come from a family of athletes so I had to learn to deal with criticism and rejection early on. I have always had issues with my weight. It's been a roller coaster. I gain weight in junior high. And had some really hard times dealing with my peers. I didn't think any of the guys really liked me until my first love. He would defend our relationship to any and everyone who opposed even his teammates. When I went to college my confidence skyrocketed. I realized it wasn't meant for everyone to appreciate all that God gave me. And that all this love could only be appreciated by a select few. So yes I am fat. But that is only a fraction of the women I am. Don't judge the book before you read it. If I can take from the people I love. Who gives a fuck what the rest of the world has to say. If you don't like it don't look. If you can't help but look, take a picture and use it to get off with.

Lghshortsay1
Lghshortsay1

i am a happy fat girl...... now thanks to the internet, as i teenager i was an unhappy fat girl as everyone told me i needed to diet to find a man...i was thinner when i met him. but im far happier now that im fat and living my life for me. he tells me everyday how perfect i am. Yet he isn't a fat admirer just a man who loves his wife no mater her size.

gorgeousenglishmanlol
gorgeousenglishmanlol

Nice article, fatties are hot, my current girlfriend loves her fat and having it jiggled and played with and is turned on by overeating, stuffing and growing fatter which is ideal!!

Mohamed Zain
Mohamed Zain

Aren't they supposed to be human beings also!! why discriminating and why the priority to skinny girls with bones poking their whole body!! Chubby girls and BBWs are beautiful, affectionate, tender, soulful, and HOT.. They will definitely make you happy. Salute to every big girl out here, WE LOVE YOU ALL :)

Superman056780
Superman056780

I love fat chicks with all my heart and will never stop loving and cherishing them

Honeycocoathai
Honeycocoathai

My boyfriend pretty much summed it up this way "I like the way you look and if they don't it doesn't matter and if they want to continue to push the issue, I got two fists that would love to discuss it further." I love that man

Amy
Amy

It just goes to show that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think this is a great article that shows there is someone out there for everyone and everyone is beautiful in their own way. As I get older and more mature, its more about who the person is, their style that makes them attractive. Looks are great but its not the only thing that makes someone attractive. Very touching!

Riddlegirl94
Riddlegirl94

OK I have been reading the comments and I have to say a few things. If some on here don't like fat girls and thinks its disgusting then OK. Its your life you can like what you want to and do whatever the hell you want to but don't put us down like some of you do. We have feelings too you know. And second, not all skinny people are healthier than fat people. I have a friend who is a size 6 ( l am a size 24) and she has some of the worst problems ever because of what she eats and because she is so lazy. I have been put down all my life because of my weight and I tried to kill myself over it once. Sorry I didn't mean to make this sound like I was whining. I'm still waiting for a guy to come along in my life and this gives me hope :)and to all the guys that like us for who we are, thank you. ~ Jill

thatkassiegirl
thatkassiegirl

This ISN'T a fetish. It's a preference. Just like the next guy might prefer his girls with red hair, this guy and many others prefer their women fat. Simple.

Mike Luciano
Mike Luciano

I love big ladies they are good to you and know how to treat their Man they will love you a long time... and won't ever cheat, Lie or steal from you.So are you that lady I'm looking for if so email me at italian120065@yahoo.com I'll be waiting for your email....Love Big Girls....hugs and kisses...

MikeB
MikeB

I was going to have a date-leading to sex with a chubby girl I met online today but I cancelled.I was afraid she would be fatter than her photos.I banged too many fatties in the past two months. They are easy.I need a change

fatwoman
fatwoman

Why are so many women creeped out by fetishists? Almost all men are fetishists in one way or another. So what? That is just what men are like. I understand that some people consider fetishes dehumanizing, but I don't think appreciating somebody as a human being and appreciating them as an object of desire are mutually exclusive. I feel sorry for men who like fat women, it seems as if there are plenty of men, women, and even fat women who are weirded out by such preferences.

Sam the Man
Sam the Man

all you big, beautiful women...if you are ever in Chicago ~ hit me up! sterranova@aldridge-electric.com

Frigidwhispers
Frigidwhispers

What bothers me about this kind of comment, is that there are people out there with such low self esteem already, and they are suicidal. Some of us fat girls have doomed ourselves and convinced ourselves that we will be alone for the rest of our lives. It's such a sad fate. Almost everyone wants to be loved unconditionally by someone. And then people like that get on things like this, and spew that hatred for people that are not like them. I can only hope that someone they love gets fat, or actually, I can only hope that they get fat and maybe they will see the world in a different way, but to each his own. There is a special place in hell for them.

Michelle
Michelle

You know what I liked about this article and this man they've interviewed? Only ONCE did they use the term BBW. Through everything he just said he liked fat chicks, fat. Fat. FAT. Fucking say it you guys and stop hiding behind dumb terms formed on the internet, seriously.

I am fat, I am gorgeous, and by fucking god I am a woman, but the term BBW turns into a instant fetish or creeper word to me. I'm an intelligent woman and I feel sometimes those terms demean me, do skinny women have a short term? "Skinny Sexy Woman" SSW? If so, please tell me if there is a obsession here because I must be missing out. I can do the terms chubby, overweight, obese, sized, whatever, just not "large ladies" and "big beautiful women" and "chubby chaser" makes me sick as a fat chick.

It's like the racist term for fat people; it's like calling the fucking kettle black. It's offensive while meaning to be explanatory.

Truly I look skinnier than most girls at my wight because they're shorter, but I'm fat. Still fat. Most deny that I'm fat, but I'm fat. I'm OK with it-- Screw all these haters, mayn! Haters gonna fucking hate.

5'8'' 200 lbs at 22 white bitch right here and feelin' good.

Lisa
Lisa

Fat may be unhealthy but lets be honest- 95% of people will never lose the weight, so why not just accept ourselves and be happy? However, being a feeder is as destructive as trying to get someone to slim down as it preys on low self esteem and demeans women. We all want to be accepted and loved for who we are- fat thighs or chicken legs.

Girl
Girl

Look, I am a big girl, and yes It is unhealthy to be like this, but it's really obnoxious when men and women discriminate just because I'm" bigger." my boyfriend is probably not into bigger women, but he stays with me because we love each other and that's all that matters. He has encouraged me to go to the gym and that's what I have been doing. Sometimes all that fat girl or fat guy needs is too feel like they are worth something , so maybe they could change ( I am still happy with my previous weight and who I am now). But to go ahead and tell someone " you just don't have enough self esteem to get a smoking hot woman" is just childish and blind sited. Grow up, if you like a fat girl , but your super healthy, encourage her to workout with you just because you care enough for her. Really, don't be juvenile about the whole concept.

kduprey111072
kduprey111072

Hi im bbw im looking for a relationship . How old are u ? Where are you from ?

Siski1978
Siski1978

I agree with you they shouldn't judge!

arvindh234
arvindh234

@Kayleen Bell  

u r right sweeety

Soft&Cuddly
Soft&Cuddly

Isn't if funny that I have been on face book for a long time and never come across these pages you speak of? I don't doubt that they are there- I just never went looking for them as you seem to have been doing. Are you gay and into big women by some strange chance? I mean here you are again...on a blog about big women? Do you maybe belong to the itty bitty titty committee or the moral majority? (Do they even exist still?) I am joking in a way but I am seriously wondering why you have your tighty whitey cotton panties in a bunch over big women and the men who admire them? Is the gay community too well connected and received for you to target them so you found a new thing to champion? Why single out large women? Did one of you ex's leave you for one? I'd really like to get to the bottom of your fetish to persecute large women. You need to stop stressing - put parental controls ( or as I may suspect...husband controls) on your computer. You don't think you kids see sex and sex related content on television, movies, school buddies stash, computer. Face Book? Hardly where some kid is going to go looking- just like your generation looked up dirty words in the dictionary today's kids are Google them and ogling them a whole lot more. Talk to you kid don't rant at the world because it's a lot more effective.

Ashley Pacheco
Ashley Pacheco

You are an idiot..... There are numerous FB pages that are equivalent to "soft porn' as you described it. And they are open. There are also many disgusting pictures and videos being spread around FB that contain both skinny and fat women alike. You're whole argument can be thrown out the window. Ugh. And then to say that their weight will cost "us taxpayers and health companies money" Honey.....I'm a plus size women and I pay taxes too....and my own health care. You should really erase your reply to avoid any further embarrassment.

Amena_69
Amena_69

@Mike Luciano where are u from ?

Taylor Scott58
Taylor Scott58

Shit up bitch yo skinny ugly ass stank breathe bitches I hate skinny fuckd duck a ding dong

Busan321
Busan321

This isn't even English get an education before you attempt to flame somone you ignoramus

 

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