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I have one tattoo: the five-note melody line to "God Only Knows," splayed conspicuously across my right shoulder. I've worn it long enough that I often have the luxury of forgetting its presence, the proximity of something so beautiful.
One afternoon in May, I have a handful of minutes to interview Brian Wilson, the brilliant, troubled recluse who wrote that Beach Boys opus and so many more. But as he waits politely for my questions, it seems far more urgent to explain why I have his notes printed on my body—how they honor his act of kindness many years ago, one that changed my family forever. I will stutter onward, because I have waited six years to thank him.
My parents are very much the modest, proud working class of rock lyrics. They live in Northern California and were devoted public school teachers; my father led his district's underfunded bilingual language department, teaching English to impoverished Mexican immigrants. He used rock music— especially his lifelong favorites, the Beach Boys—as a crucial part of his program, often transforming stodgy school assemblies into sing-along spectacles. His wide-eyed students learned Chuck Berry and English sentence construction in equal measure and flocked to him for further rock tutelage long after leaving his classroom.
Music also served as his great bond to his only child. Hours of shared guitar and trumpet practice in the living room, interspersed with listening sessions fueled by his John Peel–worthy scholarship, kept us close—especially when he suffered a near-fatal brain tumor in 1993. We passed the months of sterile hospital hours comparing '60s rock trivia with forced levity. He would emerge from those surgeries in full remission, although the altered alchemy of his brain left him susceptible to fits of severe depression.
For decades, he also worked as a singer/songwriter; he'd toured the West Coast festival circuit and self-released albums of his sweet folk rock (including one that inexplicably featured Tommy Lee). Around 2003, he had been signed to an independent label and received radio airplay across America, and his artistic goals seemed realized. But the label's actions eventually turned dishonorable—and in the fall of 2005, he only had a few weeks left in his contract, which was triggering the very worst of his depression.
"If this attempt fails, too, I'm done," he said tearfully as I listened silently down a phone line. "I lose. I won't try again."
Our talks had evolved into this dismal routine, and these comments had become repetitive but no less distressing. His misery, and the artless reality of failed dreams, was frightening. I wasn't ready yet to view my parents as unrealized, much less as defeated.
One October evening, I had a response for my father. The day before, I had read about a Hurricane Katrina relief challenge under way on Brian Wilson's website. The premise: Donate to the national relief effort, and in return, Wilson would make a personal phone call—a noble, bizarre invitation from a deeply sheltered musician. Perhaps he'd been buoyed by the recent completion of Smile, his long-delayed "teenage symphony to God" that prompted his late-'60s nervous breakdown.
I suggested to my father that he participate—in this nadir, he needed a resilient artistic spirit, a few words of encouragement. He'd identified with Wilson all his life, having grown up in a Southern California town neighboring the Beach Boys' Hawthorne, and shared his isolation of having a father disapproving of his creative accomplishments. We submitted a donation and, as requested by Wilson's coordinator, specified times spanning 20 hours over two weeks. He called me every evening to inform me chipperly that Brian hadn't called yet, but he certainly would tomorrow.
But time passed, and our spectacular plan became a failure—my father had been let down by both his record label and his hero. He tried to shield me from his sharp disappointment, but his blue period was palpably worse than ever. And the latest letdown had been triggered by my idea.
Miles away, in my college radio station's workroom, I investigated. According to a triumphant press release from the Wilson camp, he had completed all calls. I sent a missive to the only e-mail address I had, writing abrasively, tripping over my fingers' furious pace as I demanded an explanation; in coda, I belittled Brian and the program organizers' professionalism. It served a bitter resignation of my futility, and that which I'd caused my dad to feel more deeply.
Two nights later, I discovered a response from Brian Wilson's wife, Melinda. With a verbosity to rival mine, and shreds of text highlighted in red, she called my letter "nasty," insisted that her husband had indeed tried to call, and declared that my behavior had marred his sincere attempt to help in a national crisis.
In that horrible moment, the whole series of events felt hopeless, and I felt culpable. Brian hadn't called, and I'd added a poisonous dimension to his charitable efforts. And though he didn't know about this exchange, my father was no better for it.
Years ago when I was living on Kuaui I met Brian Wilson while he was overlooking Hanlei Bay. He had that same infectious kid-like playfulness and joy as I had when I told him my first concert was a Beach Boys concert. Still, it's one of the highlights in my life some 30 years later. Great, great human being.
I got to sit in on the sound check for the March 1999 "comeback" show in Ann Arbor, Michigan. I was the only person on the main floor at the Michigan Theater. After the band finished Brian wandered up the aisle and stood near the aisle seat where I was sitting. I thought "Should I introduce myself? How stupid would that be?" But when would I ever have the chance to meet Brian again? So I did introduce myself, welcomed him to Ann Arbor etc he was very nervous, but pleasant. A hero of mine, for sure.
In an article that I thought was going to be about Brian Wilson, Stacey Anderson can certainly be forgiven for sharing this poignant story about herself and her father. It was a brilliant and touching piece.
It would be a mistake, however, to think of the Brian Wilson story simply as a tale of the "tortured artist." The two things that had a profoundly negative impact on Mr. Wilson's life were his ill-fated experiments with mind-altering drugs (LSD in particular) and his disastrous experience with Dr. Eugene Landy, the Svengali "therapist" who attempted to "cure" him by virtually taking over every aspect of his life for several years.
Fortunately, Brian Wilson and the author's father seem to have come to terms with their daemons, which is the most that any artist can really hope for. For men such as these, it has to be considered a happy, if bittersweet outcome.
this was not another boring story interviewing brian wilson, it was original and captivating. thanks for sharing your story with us.
Finally, an original article about Brian Wilson!! So tired of the stock stories about mental illness,etc.etc.. Congrats on a heartfelt accounting of your dad's spiritual rebirth.
You forgot to mention that Brian was also abused by his father as a child, who at one point hit Brian in the ear so hard it permanently damaged his hearing. There may also have been a presence of depression or other chemical imbalances in his brain chemistry prior to his LSD use which obviously only made things worse. Brian was also profoundly affected by the cancellation of Smile.
Many people have experimented with LSD and other mind altering drugs...not all of them end up in bed with major depression for 3 years. You are right, people are quick to jump to the "tortured artist" story. They are also quick to mention the LSD/Dr. Landy aspect of Brian's life without considering other variables. You mentioned two notable points in his career arc - but not the whole story. I think Brian was looking for some answers to the missing places in his life and unfortunately thought he found those answers in LSD and later in Dr. Levy; but many of the deeper problems in his life, what you call "daemons", had little to do with drug use and new-wave psychotherapy.